I Like You http://ilikeyoupodcast.com A weekly podcast about love, like, dating and the opposites of those things. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 05:01:51 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 A weekly podcast about love, like, dating and the opposites of those things. Call 1-888-854-5337 with your questions or comments! A weekly podcast about love, like, dating and the opposites of those things. JP and Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/images/logo600.jpgI Like Youhttp://ilikeyoupodcast.com dating, date, dates, relationships, love, sex, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, online dating, social networks yes JP Davidson jeanpauldavidson@gmail.com #21: ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/02/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/02/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes-rerun/#comments Fri, 03 Feb 2012 05:01:51 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1690

Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how. [view original show notes, comments, and music credits]

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/02/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes-rerun/feed/ 0 Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how. [view original show notes, comments, and music credits] Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how. [view original show notes, comments, and music credits] JP & Elah 29:42 yes #65: Tell Me Everything http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/65-tell-me-everything/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/65-tell-me-everything/#comments Sat, 21 Jan 2012 00:53:08 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1675

Janet had been seeing Aaron for a few weeks, and she knew she couldn’t wait much longer to tell him. They had fallen for each other fast, and it seemed like things would only get better – but how would Aaron react when she told him she was transgender?

This week we talked to Janet and Aaron about their love (a story so goddamn sweet it gave us goosebumps) and about going public.

Learn more about Janet and her upcoming memoir at janetmock.com or listen to Janet and Aaron be sickeningly cute (good sick) on their podcast, The Missing Piece.

Music this week by Madrid (Ulrich Schnauss remix of “Out To Sea”, though watch the video of the original too). Additional songs by:

Pretty Young ThingBlondfire
“Pretty Young Thing” (mp3)
from “Pretty Young Thing”
(Tender Tender Rush)
More On This Album

Who I AmAngel Miller
“Bridge Over Troubled Water” (mp3)
from “Who I Am”
(Northern Shore Productions)
More On This Album

Allo Darlin'Allo Darlin’
“My Heart is a Drummer” (mp3)
from “Allo Darlin’”
(Fortuna POP!)
Buy at Napster
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/65-tell-me-everything/feed/ 0 Janet had been seeing Aaron for a few weeks, and she knew she couldn’t wait much longer to tell him. They had fallen for each other fast, and it seemed like things would only get better – but how would Aaron react when she told him she was transgender? This week we talked to Janet and Aaron about their love (a story so goddamn sweet it gave us goosebumps) and about going public. Learn more about Janet and her upcoming memoir at janetmock.com or listen to Janet and Aaron be sickeningly cute (good sick) on their podcast, The Missing Piece. Music this week by Madrid (Ulrich Schnauss remix of “Out To Sea”, though watch the video of the original too). Additional songs by: Blondfire “Pretty Young Thing” (mp3) from “Pretty Young Thing” (Tender Tender Rush) More On This Album Angel Miller “Bridge Over Troubled Water” (mp3) from “Who I Am” (Northern Shore Productions) More On This Album Allo Darlin’ “My Heart is a Drummer” (mp3) from “Allo Darlin’” (Fortuna POP!) Buy at Napster More On This Album Janet had been seeing Aaron for a few weeks, and she knew she couldn’t wait much longer to tell him. They had fallen for each other fast, and it seemed like things would only get better – but how would Aaron react when she told him she was [...] JP & Elah 34:32 yes #64: The Democratic Republic of Love http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/64-the-democratic-republic-of-love/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/64-the-democratic-republic-of-love/#comments Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:09:08 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1650

Kit Lovelace crowd-sourced his love life. In his series for the Guardian, My Love Life in Your Hands, he’d ask thousands of Brits to vote on his next romantic move. In his first column, he asked if he should break up with his girlfriend – they voted yes – and he followed through. Listen for more examples of how far Kit took his experiment – and what happened after the column ended.

Today, Kit is giving romantic advice on his blog, Your Love Life in My Hands.

As usual, our theme music is provided by Drew Danburry.

We also featured Jack Pine and The Fire‘s Gold Silver Bronze. JP is friends with Jack, you should buy their album (or at least check out the free preview songs).

Other music this week via IODApromonet:

DuetsTim and Nicki Bluhm
“Unforgetaboutable” (mp3)
from “Duets”
(Tim Bluhm)
More On This Album


StarfuckerStarfucker
“Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3)
from “Starfucker”
(Badman Recording Co)
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2012/01/64-the-democratic-republic-of-love/feed/ 2 Kit Lovelace crowd-sourced his love life. In his series for the Guardian, My Love Life in Your Hands, he’d ask thousands of Brits to vote on his next romantic move. In his first column, he asked if he should break up with his girlfriend – they voted yes – and he followed through. Listen for more examples of how far Kit took his experiment – and what happened after the column ended. Today, Kit is giving romantic advice on his blog, Your Love Life in My Hands. As usual, our theme music is provided by Drew Danburry. We also featured Jack Pine and The Fire‘s Gold Silver Bronze. JP is friends with Jack, you should buy their album (or at least check out the free preview songs). Other music this week via IODApromonet: Tim and Nicki Bluhm “Unforgetaboutable” (mp3) from “Duets” (Tim Bluhm) More On This Album Starfucker “Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3) from “Starfucker” (Badman Recording Co) More On This Album Kit Lovelace crowd-sourced his love life. In his series for the Guardian, My Love Life in Your Hands, he’d ask thousands of Brits to vote on his next romantic move. In his first column, he asked if he should break up with his girlfriend – [...] JP & Elah 27:20 yes #63: Too Close to Home http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/63-too-close-to-home/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/63-too-close-to-home/#comments Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:25:18 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1630

Clare Lawlor’s brother stubbornly refused to take this story to the talk show circuit, so we snapped it up instead. We treat her tale with the utmost sophistication and delicacy, of course, and somehow learn something about being mature adults along the way. Happy holidays!

Music this week by Drew Danburry (theme song), Abigail Clarke, and…

The Complete Sixties CollectionJimmy & The Rackets

“Black Eyes” (mp3)
from “The Complete Sixties Collection”(Elite Special)
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/63-too-close-to-home/feed/ 1 Clare Lawlor’s brother stubbornly refused to take this story to the talk show circuit, so we snapped it up instead. We treat her tale with the utmost sophistication and delicacy, of course, and somehow learn something about being mature adults along the way. Happy holidays! Music this week by Drew Danburry (theme song), Abigail Clarke, and… Jimmy & The Rackets “Black Eyes” (mp3) from “The Complete Sixties Collection”(Elite Special) More On This Album Clare Lawlor’s brother stubbornly refused to take this story to the talk show circuit, so we snapped it up instead. We treat her tale with the utmost sophistication and delicacy, of course, and somehow learn something about being mature adults [...] JP & Elah 18:52 yes #62: Matchmaker, Matchmaker http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/62-matchmaker/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/62-matchmaker/#comments Sat, 03 Dec 2011 22:31:29 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1609

We’re finally back! In this week’s episode Myera and Sheila tell us about the ups and downs of matchmaking.

 

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/12/62-matchmaker/feed/ 3 We’re finally back! In this week’s episode Myera and Sheila tell us about the ups and downs of matchmaking.   We’re finally back! In this week’s episode Myera and Sheila tell us about the ups and downs of matchmaking.   JP & Elah 28:38 yes We’ll Be Back http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/09/well-be-back/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/09/well-be-back/#comments Fri, 02 Sep 2011 04:01:41 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1520

JP and Elah are taking a break. We’ll be back from hiatus on Friday December 2nd. We love making the show, but we just need some time to recharge our batteries and pursue some other projects. Here are a few ideas to keep you busy in the meantime:

Huge thanks to all our listeners! We really couldn’t do it without your support and encouragement! See you in December!
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/09/well-be-back/feed/ 0 JP and Elah are taking a break. We’ll be back from hiatus on Friday December 2nd. We love making the show, but we just need some time to recharge our batteries and pursue some other projects. Here are a few ideas to keep you busy in the meantime: Email us your show ideas, recording submissions and new show name ideas. Review us in iTunes – it warms our little hearts! Check out the back catalogue. Say hi on Twitter or Facebook. Huge thanks to all our listeners! We really couldn’t do it without your support and encouragement! See you in December! JP and Elah are taking a break. We’ll be back from hiatus on Friday December 2nd. We love making the show, but we just need some time to recharge our batteries and pursue some other projects. Here are a few ideas to keep you busy in the meantime: [...] JP & Elah 10:17 #29: The Best Policy [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/29-the-best-policy-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/29-the-best-policy-rerun/#comments Fri, 26 Aug 2011 17:04:47 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1508

Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. View the original post.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/29-the-best-policy-rerun/feed/ 1 Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. View the original post. Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. View the original post. JP & Elah 22:48 yes #61: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Lab Rats http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/61-7-habits-of-highly-effective-lab-rats/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/61-7-habits-of-highly-effective-lab-rats/#comments Mon, 22 Aug 2011 17:59:51 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1494

How do you make a good impression online? More precisely, how do you avoid triggering the wrath of your fellow internet daters, people who are set off by such seemingly harmless phrases as “down to earth” and “likes to laugh”? With help from friends, family and the irritable people of the web, JP and Elah give you tips for how NOT to make an online profile. If you squint really hard and think in metaphors, these are good tips for life too.

Thanks to everyone who contributed pet peeves and the talented voice actors who read them.

Music this week by Abigail Clarke and…

Synchronised SwimmersHafdis Huld
“Robot Robot” (mp3)
from “Synchronised Swimmers”
(Red Grape Records)
More On This Album

Private Tease: The Soundtrack - Vol 1JReign
“Just a Text” (mp3)
from “Private Tease: The Soundtrack – Vol 1″
(Pulsar Music Group)
More On This Album

Save AsCollection Get
“I Know” (mp3)
from “Save As”
(Magnatune)
More On This Album

Elliott SmithElliott Smith
“Needle In The Hay” (mp3)
from “Elliott Smith”
(Kill Rock Stars)
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/61-7-habits-of-highly-effective-lab-rats/feed/ 0 How do you make a good impression online? More precisely, how do you avoid triggering the wrath of your fellow internet daters, people who are set off by such seemingly harmless phrases as “down to earth” and “likes to laugh”? With help from friends, family and the irritable people of the web, JP and Elah give you tips for how NOT to make an online profile. If you squint really hard and think in metaphors, these are good tips for life too. Thanks to everyone who contributed pet peeves and the talented voice actors who read them. Music this week by Abigail Clarke and… Hafdis Huld “Robot Robot” (mp3) from “Synchronised Swimmers” (Red Grape Records) More On This Album JReign “Just a Text” (mp3) from “Private Tease: The Soundtrack – Vol 1″ (Pulsar Music Group) More On This Album Collection Get “I Know” (mp3) from “Save As” (Magnatune) More On This Album Elliott Smith “Needle In The Hay” (mp3) from “Elliott Smith” (Kill Rock Stars) More On This Album How do you make a good impression online? More precisely, how do you avoid triggering the wrath of your fellow internet daters, people who are set off by such seemingly harmless phrases as “down to earth” and “likes to laugh”? With help [...] JP & Elah 31:21 yes #39: The Secret of My Success [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/39-the-secret-of-my-success-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/39-the-secret-of-my-success-rerun/#comments Fri, 12 Aug 2011 17:25:15 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1451

JP’s parents have been married for 35 whole years. He investigates how lifelong love and commitment works and gets some handy advice for young’uns. This is one of our favourites, and we hope you like it too.

See original post for episode music downloads.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/39-the-secret-of-my-success-rerun/feed/ 0 JP’s parents have been married for 35 whole years. He investigates how lifelong love and commitment works and gets some handy advice for young’uns. This is one of our favourites, and we hope you like it too. See original post for episode music downloads. JP’s parents have been married for 35 whole years. He investigates how lifelong love and commitment works and gets some handy advice for young’uns. This is one of our favourites, and we hope you like it too. See original post for episode music [...] JP & Elah 34:25 yes #60: Alien Encounters http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/60-alien-encounters/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/60-alien-encounters/#comments Fri, 05 Aug 2011 16:41:09 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1437

Self-help books give bizarre advice. Men like to hunt animals, so women should act like prey. (We think this means wearing camo and fleeing if spotted.) If a woman finds a man sexually attractive right away, he is dangerous, and she should stop seeing him. For all their tips and tricks, these guides make opposite-sex love sound pretty hopeless. But straight people, fear not, this week, we talk to Mari Ruti who skewers the self-help perspective in her new book, The Case for Falling in Love.

Music this week by

Fox in the HenhouseFox in the Henhouse
“Fears” (mp3)
from “Fox in the Henhouse”
(IBOT Records)
More On This Album

StickeenEl Capitan
“Happy All The Time” (mp3)
from “Stickeen”
(GRASS ROOTS RECORD CO)
More On This Album

Boys & GirlsThe Promise Ring
“Best Looking Boys” (mp3)
from “Boys & Girls”
(Jade Tree)
More On This Album

Run Wolves RunSean Hayes
“When We Fall In” (mp3)
from “Run Wolves Run”
(Sean Hayes)
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/08/60-alien-encounters/feed/ 4 Self-help books give bizarre advice. Men like to hunt animals, so women should act like prey. (We think this means wearing camo and fleeing if spotted.) If a woman finds a man sexually attractive right away, he is dangerous, and she should stop seeing him. For all their tips and tricks, these guides make opposite-sex love sound pretty hopeless. But straight people, fear not, this week, we talk to Mari Ruti who skewers the self-help perspective in her new book, The Case for Falling in Love. Music this week by Fox in the Henhouse “Fears” (mp3) from “Fox in the Henhouse” (IBOT Records) More On This Album El Capitan “Happy All The Time” (mp3) from “Stickeen” (GRASS ROOTS RECORD CO) More On This Album The Promise Ring “Best Looking Boys” (mp3) from “Boys & Girls” (Jade Tree) More On This Album Sean Hayes “When We Fall In” (mp3) from “Run Wolves Run” (Sean Hayes) More On This Album Self-help books give bizarre advice. Men like to hunt animals, so women should act like prey. (We think this means wearing camo and fleeing if spotted.) If a woman finds a man sexually attractive right away, he is dangerous, and she should stop [...] JP & Elah 39:21 yes #59: Race Matters http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/59-race-matters/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/59-race-matters/#comments Sat, 30 Jul 2011 21:30:41 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1410

Is it racist to be attracted to just one race? Shouldn’t we be equal-opportunity daters? This week JP and Elah are joined by Andil Gosine to discuss the intersection of race and attraction, where our racially motivated desires originate, and why race still matters in an increasingly connected world.

Andil’s latest project, Khush: A Show of Love, includes a 5-part podcast series produced by JP. The interviews tell the story of Khush, the nucleus of the Toronto gay south Asian community in the late 80s and early 90s.

Review the straight and gay OkCupid race data we mentioned for more in-depth analysis of how race effects response rates online.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Year Of The MonkeyTommy Guerrero
“Archaic Days” (mp3)
from “Year Of The Monkey”
(Galaxia)

More On This Album

Only Good Thoughts Can StayJared Mees & The Grown Children
“Limber Hearts” (mp3)
from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay”
(Tender Loving Empire)

More On This Album

Public DomainCharlie Hunter
“Ain’t We Got Fun” (mp3)
from “Public Domain”
(reapandsow, Inc.)

More On This Album

Only Good Thoughts Can StayJared Mees & The Grown Children
“Hungry Like a Tiger” (mp3)
from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay”
(Tender Loving Empire)

More On This Album

StarfuckerStarfucker
“Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3)
from “Starfucker”
(Badman Recording Co)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/59-race-matters/feed/ 0 Is it racist to be attracted to just one race? Shouldn’t we be equal-opportunity daters? This week JP and Elah are joined by Andil Gosine to discuss the intersection of race and attraction, where our racially motivated desires originate, and why race still matters in an increasingly connected world. Andil’s latest project, Khush: A Show of Love, includes a 5-part podcast series produced by JP. The interviews tell the story of Khush, the nucleus of the Toronto gay south Asian community in the late 80s and early 90s. Review the straight and gay OkCupid race data we mentioned for more in-depth analysis of how race effects response rates online. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by: Tommy Guerrero “Archaic Days” (mp3) from “Year Of The Monkey” (Galaxia) More On This Album Jared Mees & The Grown Children “Limber Hearts” (mp3) from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay” (Tender Loving Empire) More On This Album Charlie Hunter “Ain’t We Got Fun” (mp3) from “Public Domain” (reapandsow, Inc.) More On This Album Jared Mees & The Grown Children “Hungry Like a Tiger” (mp3) from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay” (Tender Loving Empire) More On This Album Starfucker “Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3) from “Starfucker” (Badman Recording Co) More On This Album Is it racist to be attracted to just one race? Shouldn’t we be equal-opportunity daters? This week JP and Elah are joined by Andil Gosine to discuss the intersection of race and attraction, where our racially motivated desires originate, and why [...] JP & Elah 39:35 yes #58: You’ve Got Mail http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/58-youve-got-mail/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/58-youve-got-mail/#comments Sun, 24 Jul 2011 03:10:21 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1396

This week Lindsay Zier-Vogel tells us about spreading her love for the city through the Love Lettering Project.

Theme and closing music by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Ten KensTen Kens
“Bearfight” (mp3)
from “Ten Kens”
(Fat Cat Records)
More On This Album

IncomingRattler
“Getting Awesome” (mp3)
from “Incoming”
(Magic Bullet)
More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/58-youve-got-mail/feed/ 1 This week Lindsay Zier-Vogel tells us about spreading her love for the city through the Love Lettering Project. Theme and closing music by Drew Danburry, other music by: Ten Kens “Bearfight” (mp3) from “Ten Kens” (Fat Cat Records) More On This Album Rattler “Getting Awesome” (mp3) from “Incoming” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album This week Lindsay Zier-Vogel tells us about spreading her love for the city through the Love Lettering Project. Theme and closing music by Drew Danburry, other music by: Ten Kens “Bearfight” (mp3) from “Ten Kens” (Fat Cat Records) More On [...] JP & Elah 26:23 yes #57: Positive http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/57-positive/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/57-positive/#comments Sun, 17 Jul 2011 01:25:56 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1379

You get a call from an ex telling you he’s probably infected you with HIV. Remember when he said he’d gotten tested and he was all good? Well, it looks like he lied. What do you do? How will this change your life? The less we tell you about Jessica Whitbread’s story in advance, the better. But we will say that she defied all our expectations. She made us laugh so hard, we felt a little weird about it (mostly good weird). We challenge you to find a more uplifting, more entertaining hour about HIV anywhere on the nets.

For more about HIV/AIDS in Toronto, visit the AIDS Committee of Toronto, where Jessica works.

UPDATE: The No Pants No Problem underwear dance party will take place on September 10th at the Garrison in Toronto. Facebook event.

Oh, and there’s this Sarah Silverman clip too.

Music this week by Drew Danburry (theme music), Abigail Clarke, and

Young MountainThis Will Destroy You
“The World Is Our ___” (mp3)
from “Young Mountain”
(Magic Bullet)

More On This Album

Music For TouristsChris Garneau
“Baby’s Romance” (mp3)
from “Music For Tourists”
(Absolutely Kosher)

More On This Album

Cold FactRodriguez
“Sugar Man” (mp3)
from “Cold Fact”
(Light In The Attic)

More On This Album

Tiger BalmPickering Pick
“Like A River” (mp3)
from “Tiger Balm”
(Yer Bird Records)

More On This Album

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“Delancey Waltz” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

More On This Album

FantasiesMetric
“Gimme Sympathy” (mp3)
from “Fantasies”
(Arts & Crafts Mexico)

More On This Album

MaximilianMaximilian
“Greyhound” (mp3)
from “Maximilian”
(Twirl Records)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/57-positive/feed/ 2 You get a call from an ex telling you he’s probably infected you with HIV. Remember when he said he’d gotten tested and he was all good? Well, it looks like he lied. What do you do? How will this change your life? The less we tell you about Jessica Whitbread’s story in advance, the better. But we will say that she defied all our expectations. She made us laugh so hard, we felt a little weird about it (mostly good weird). We challenge you to find a more uplifting, more entertaining hour about HIV anywhere on the nets. For more about HIV/AIDS in Toronto, visit the AIDS Committee of Toronto, where Jessica works. UPDATE: The No Pants No Problem underwear dance party will take place on September 10th at the Garrison in Toronto. Facebook event. Oh, and there’s this Sarah Silverman clip too. Music this week by Drew Danburry (theme music), Abigail Clarke, and This Will Destroy You “The World Is Our ___” (mp3) from “Young Mountain” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album Chris Garneau “Baby’s Romance” (mp3) from “Music For Tourists” (Absolutely Kosher) More On This Album Rodriguez “Sugar Man” (mp3) from “Cold Fact” (Light In The Attic) More On This Album Pickering Pick “Like A River” (mp3) from “Tiger Balm” (Yer Bird Records) More On This Album Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album Metric “Gimme Sympathy” (mp3) from “Fantasies” (Arts & Crafts Mexico) More On This Album Maximilian “Greyhound” (mp3) from “Maximilian” (Twirl Records) More On This Album You get a call from an ex telling you he’s probably infected you with HIV. Remember when he said he’d gotten tested and he was all good? Well, it looks like he lied. What do you do? How will this change your life? The less we tell you about [...] JP & Elah 1:03:11 yes #32: It’s Over [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/32-its-over-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/32-its-over-rerun/#comments Fri, 08 Jul 2011 04:01:46 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1358

Breakups. Sierra Bellows asks people in her town when they knew it was over. This is an all-time ILY favourite from the vault, mostly because it makes us cry. If you fail to cry, listen to Against All Odds, the Postal Service cover. The original by Phil Collins is also somewhat effective.

See the original episode post for music downloads and credits.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/32-its-over-rerun/feed/ 3 Breakups. Sierra Bellows asks people in her town when they knew it was over. This is an all-time ILY favourite from the vault, mostly because it makes us cry. If you fail to cry, listen to Against All Odds, the Postal Service cover. The original by Phil Collins is also somewhat effective. See the original episode post for music downloads and credits. Breakups. Sierra Bellows asks people in her town when they knew it was over. This is an all-time ILY favourite from the vault, mostly because it makes us cry. If you fail to cry, listen to Against All Odds, the Postal Service cover. The original by [...] JP and Elah 20:44 yes #56: Bi-ology http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/56-bi-ology/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/56-bi-ology/#comments Fri, 01 Jul 2011 19:26:49 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1351

Two curious monosexuals journey into the strange and wonderful world of people who are attracted to men and women. BOTH OF THEM. (Not necessarily at the same time though.) After hearing our Gay Talk episode, our friend and historian, Anna, decided we might learn a thing or two about the bisexual way and she patiently submitted to an hour long interrogation. We report back with our astonishing findings.

Show notes:

  • For some people, bisexuality means they are attracted to more than one gender, not necessarily just men and women.
  • We mention a widely reported 2005 study which allegedly refuted the existence of bisexuality in men. Before you take it too seriously, consider that a) it had a tiny sample size, b) people who identify as bisexual might feel exclusive attraction to one gender some of the time, so measuring their attraction at just one point in their lives might not reveal their bisexuality, and c) attraction is not synonymous with having an erection (thankfully). CBS gave a nice quick overview of the study and some criticisms.

Music this week by…

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“Delancey Waltz” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

More On This Album

StarfuckerStarfucker
“Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3)
from “Starfucker”
(Badman Recording Co)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/07/56-bi-ology/feed/ 1 Two curious monosexuals journey into the strange and wonderful world of people who are attracted to men and women. BOTH OF THEM. (Not necessarily at the same time though.) After hearing our Gay Talk episode, our friend and historian, Anna, decided we might learn a thing or two about the bisexual way and she patiently submitted to an hour long interrogation. We report back with our astonishing findings. Show notes: For some people, bisexuality means they are attracted to more than one gender, not necessarily just men and women. We mention a widely reported 2005 study which allegedly refuted the existence of bisexuality in men. Before you take it too seriously, consider that a) it had a tiny sample size, b) people who identify as bisexual might feel exclusive attraction to one gender some of the time, so measuring their attraction at just one point in their lives might not reveal their bisexuality, and c) attraction is not synonymous with having an erection (thankfully). CBS gave a nice quick overview of the study and some criticisms. Music this week by… Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album Starfucker “Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3) from “Starfucker” (Badman Recording Co) More On This Album Two curious monosexuals journey into the strange and wonderful world of people who are attracted to men and women. BOTH OF THEM. (Not necessarily at the same time though.) After hearing our Gay Talk episode, our friend and historian, Anna, decided [...] JP & Elah 26:27 yes #55: Learning to Cope http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/55-learning-to-cope/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/55-learning-to-cope/#comments Fri, 24 Jun 2011 21:26:43 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1340

Online dating can be hard on the soul – all that rejecting and rejection! Sofi (aka Sexy Typewriter) shares some stories of how she’s learned to cope.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music this week by:
Under The Influenceetypejazz
“Copacabana” (mp3)
from “Under The Influence”
(Etype Music)

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HI-FLYSachal Vasandani
“Babes Blues” (mp3)
from “HI-FLY”
(Mack Avenue Records)

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Ruthie Foster Live at Antone'sRuthie Foster
“Stone Love” (mp3)
from “Ruthie Foster Live at Antone’s”
(Blue Corn Music)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/55-learning-to-cope/feed/ 2 Online dating can be hard on the soul – all that rejecting and rejection! Sofi (aka Sexy Typewriter) shares some stories of how she’s learned to cope. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music this week by: etypejazz “Copacabana” (mp3) from “Under The Influence” (Etype Music) More On This Album Sachal Vasandani “Babes Blues” (mp3) from “HI-FLY” (Mack Avenue Records) More On This Album Ruthie Foster “Stone Love” (mp3) from “Ruthie Foster Live at Antone’s” (Blue Corn Music) More On This Album Online dating can be hard on the soul – all that rejecting and rejection! Sofi (aka Sexy Typewriter) shares some stories of how she’s learned to cope. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music this week by: etypejazz “Copacabana” (mp3) [...] JP & Elah 25:19 yes An Evening of Magic http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/an-evening-of-magic/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/an-evening-of-magic/#comments Fri, 17 Jun 2011 11:44:20 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1322

This song will rock your soul to its very core. Do not listen if you are pregnant. It may make your baby amazing.

We’re still looking for one-minute storytellers for our live event in August. Sign up now!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/an-evening-of-magic/feed/ 0 This song will rock your soul to its very core. Do not listen if you are pregnant. It may make your baby amazing. We’re still looking for one-minute storytellers for our live event in August. Sign up now! This song will rock your soul to its very core. Do not listen if you are pregnant. It may make your baby amazing. We’re still looking for one-minute storytellers for our live event in August. Sign up now! JP & Elah 5:47 yes #54: Touching Hot Stoves http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/54-touching-hot-stoves/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/54-touching-hot-stoves/#comments Fri, 10 Jun 2011 03:38:22 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1307

Relationship lessons are rarely learned the easy way, more often than not it’s more akin to touching a hot stove. You’re sure to get burned, but at least you won’t soon forget the lesson. This week we talk to Liam about some of the lessons he’s learned, and the painful ways they were taught.

Signup now to be part of our amazing LIVE storytelling event happening in Toronto this August! Only the first 60 will be accepted! Tell your friends!

Theme music by Drew Danburry, detail on the other music used this week along with FREE, no obligation, no signup, MP3 download links below!

End TimesWeekend
“End Times” (mp3)
from “End Times”
(Slumberland Records)

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Comeback CadillacThe Weeks
“Buttons” (mp3)
from “Comeback Cadillac”
(Esperanza Plantation)

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Falling Through A Field (Reissue)Black Moth Super Rainbow
“Colorful Nickels” (mp3)
from “Falling Through A Field (Reissue)”
(Graveface Records)

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Sowing SeedsPure Grain
“Cowgirl Remix feat. RJ Sidewayz” (mp3)
from “Sowing Seeds”
(Sol Records)

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Big Black Hole And The Little Baby StarSean Hayes
“Calling All Cars” (mp3)
from “Big Black Hole And The Little Baby Star”
(Sean Hayes)

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Photo by Twitter user Merrick Brown

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/54-touching-hot-stoves/feed/ 0 Relationship lessons are rarely learned the easy way, more often than not it’s more akin to touching a hot stove. You’re sure to get burned, but at least you won’t soon forget the lesson. This week we talk to Liam about some of the lessons he’s learned, and the painful ways they were taught. Signup now to be part of our amazing LIVE storytelling event happening in Toronto this August! Only the first 60 will be accepted! Tell your friends! Theme music by Drew Danburry, detail on the other music used this week along with FREE, no obligation, no signup, MP3 download links below! Weekend “End Times” (mp3) from “End Times” (Slumberland Records) More On This Album The Weeks “Buttons” (mp3) from “Comeback Cadillac” (Esperanza Plantation) More On This Album Black Moth Super Rainbow “Colorful Nickels” (mp3) from “Falling Through A Field (Reissue)” (Graveface Records) More On This Album Pure Grain “Cowgirl Remix feat. RJ Sidewayz” (mp3) from “Sowing Seeds” (Sol Records) More On This Album Sean Hayes “Calling All Cars” (mp3) from “Big Black Hole And The Little Baby Star” (Sean Hayes) More On This Album Photo by Twitter user Merrick Brown Relationship lessons are rarely learned the easy way, more often than not it’s more akin to touching a hot stove. You’re sure to get burned, but at least you won’t soon forget the lesson. This week we talk to Liam about some of the lessons [...] JP & Elah 36:53 yes #17: Dating Under the Influence [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/17-dating-under-the-influence-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/17-dating-under-the-influence-rerun/#comments Fri, 03 Jun 2011 04:01:50 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1292

Are you the master of your own domain? Probably not. This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family, pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives.

Pictured above, two generations of nerds try to influence a third (from left to right: Dave, Sebastien, JP). View the original post including links to research, music and free audio books.

Let us know about your influencers in the comments!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/06/17-dating-under-the-influence-rerun/feed/ 0 Are you the master of your own domain? Probably not. This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family, pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives. Pictured above, two generations of nerds try to influence a third (from left to right: Dave, Sebastien, JP). View the original post including links to research, music and free audio books. Let us know about your influencers in the comments! Are you the master of your own domain? Probably not. This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family, pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives. Pictured above, two generations of nerds try to influence a third (from left to [...] JP & Elah 38:56 yes #53: Going to the Chapel http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/53-going-to-the-chapel/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/53-going-to-the-chapel/#comments Fri, 27 May 2011 13:26:15 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1269

Why does anyone get married anymore? And why do they make us get out of bed to watch it happen? This week, we try to figure out why, against all reason, we hope to get married one day. Sierra talks to two friends as they prepare for their weddings, and things begin to make a bit more sense. Their stories are really heart-warming, and if you’ve got an acute case of the singles, kind of reassuring too.

Music this week by Abigail Clarke and

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“The Kid” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

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Bright Examples (EP)Sarah Lee Guthrie & Johnny Irion
“Never Far from My Heart” (mp3)
from “Bright Examples (EP)”
(Ninth Street Opus)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/53-going-to-the-chapel/feed/ 2 Why does anyone get married anymore? And why do they make us get out of bed to watch it happen? This week, we try to figure out why, against all reason, we hope to get married one day. Sierra talks to two friends as they prepare for their weddings, and things begin to make a bit more sense. Their stories are really heart-warming, and if you’ve got an acute case of the singles, kind of reassuring too. Music this week by Abigail Clarke and Marc Ribot “The Kid” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album Sarah Lee Guthrie & Johnny Irion “Never Far from My Heart” (mp3) from “Bright Examples (EP)” (Ninth Street Opus) More On This Album Why does anyone get married anymore? And why do they make us get out of bed to watch it happen? This week, we try to figure out why, against all reason, we hope to get married one day. Sierra talks to two friends as they prepare for their weddings, [...] JP & Elah 37:50 yes #52: Spy Stories http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/52-spy-stories/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/52-spy-stories/#comments Fri, 20 May 2011 03:00:45 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1254 We’re all about eavesdropping this week. As a young TTY operator, Laura-Louise got right in the middle of people’s private conversations. Funny, scandalous, moving, she heard it all, and then she told us.

Plus, JP confesses to doing some high-tech creeping when he lost trust in his ex. He didn’t like what he found.

You can see Laura-Louise’s original TTY story at MothUP Toronto’s Vimeo section. There’s stuff by former guest, Sage Tyrtle, on there too. And if you want to attend an event, join MothUP’s Facebook Group.

And finally, tell a 1-minute story at I Like You’s live event in August. Sign up at ilikeyoupodcast.com/live.

Later That Day...Lyrics Born
“Callin’ Out” (mp3)
from “Later That Day…”
(Quannum Projects)

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A Thousand Tiny PiecesSean Hayes
“A Thousand Tiny Pieces” (mp3)
from “A Thousand Tiny Pieces”
(snail blue)

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Fixin to ThrillDragonette
“Pick Up The Phone” (mp3)
from “Fixin to Thrill”
(Dragonette Inc)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/52-spy-stories/feed/ 2 We’re all about eavesdropping this week. As a young TTY operator, Laura-Louise got right in the middle of people’s private conversations. Funny, scandalous, moving, she heard it all, and then she told us. Plus, JP confesses to doing some high-tech creeping when he lost trust in his ex. He didn’t like what he found. You can see Laura-Louise’s original TTY story at MothUP Toronto’s Vimeo section. There’s stuff by former guest, Sage Tyrtle, on there too. And if you want to attend an event, join MothUP’s Facebook Group. And finally, tell a 1-minute story at I Like You’s live event in August. Sign up at ilikeyoupodcast.com/live. Lyrics Born “Callin’ Out” (mp3) from “Later That Day…” (Quannum Projects) More On This Album Sean Hayes “A Thousand Tiny Pieces” (mp3) from “A Thousand Tiny Pieces” (snail blue) More On This Album Dragonette “Pick Up The Phone” (mp3) from “Fixin to Thrill” (Dragonette Inc) More On This Album We’re all about eavesdropping this week. As a young TTY operator, Laura-Louise got right in the middle of people’s private conversations. Funny, scandalous, moving, she heard it all, and then she told us. Plus, JP confesses to doing some [...] JP and Elah 25:32 yes #51: Money Up Front http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/51-money-up-front/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/51-money-up-front/#comments Fri, 13 May 2011 02:49:55 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1239

Lindsay is an Ottawa area sex worker. She works with the non-profit advocacy group POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa/Gatineau Work, Educate, Resist) to decriminalize prostitution in Canada and improve working conditions for sex workers. She tells us how she got her start, what it’s like to have sex for money, and how different it is from Julia Roberts’ Pretty Woman.

Thanks to Anne Patterson for putting us in touch with Lindsay – you can read her profile of Lindsay on Hello Ottawa.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Oh, RamonaHospital Ships
“I Want It to Get Out” (mp3)
from “Oh, Ramona”
(Graveface Records)

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Only Good Thoughts Can StayJared Mees & The Grown Children
“Hungry Like a Tiger” (mp3)
from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay”
(Tender Loving Empire)

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The Double CrossSloan
“Unkind” (mp3)
from “The Double Cross”
(Outside Music)

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The Pine Tree, The Mushroom, & The End of the WorldThe Nghiems
“Dum Dum Dah Dah” (mp3)
from “The Pine Tree, The Mushroom, & The End of the World”
(Ryan Lindsey Masters)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/51-money-up-front/feed/ 4 Lindsay is an Ottawa area sex worker. She works with the non-profit advocacy group POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa/Gatineau Work, Educate, Resist) to decriminalize prostitution in Canada and improve working conditions for sex workers. She tells us how she got her start, what it’s like to have sex for money, and how different it is from Julia Roberts’ Pretty Woman. Thanks to Anne Patterson for putting us in touch with Lindsay – you can read her profile of Lindsay on Hello Ottawa. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by: Hospital Ships “I Want It to Get Out” (mp3) from “Oh, Ramona” (Graveface Records) More On This Album Jared Mees & The Grown Children “Hungry Like a Tiger” (mp3) from “Only Good Thoughts Can Stay” (Tender Loving Empire) More On This Album Sloan “Unkind” (mp3) from “The Double Cross” (Outside Music) More On This Album The Nghiems “Dum Dum Dah Dah” (mp3) from “The Pine Tree, The Mushroom, & The End of the World” (Ryan Lindsey Masters) More On This Album Lindsay is an Ottawa area sex worker. She works with the non-profit advocacy group POWER (Prostitutes of Ottawa/Gatineau Work, Educate, Resist) to decriminalize prostitution in Canada and improve working conditions for sex workers. She tells us [...] JP & Elah 43:20 yes #50: Sneaking Back In http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/50-sneaking-back-in/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/50-sneaking-back-in/#comments Fri, 06 May 2011 11:42:53 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1224

This week we talk to show favourite Lynn about the dramatic breakup of her marriage. She gets kicked out, rallies, learns some lessons, and kicks herself right back in.

Theme music my Drew Danburry, other music by:

b-sides and raritiesCAKE
“It’s Coming Down” (mp3)
from “b-sides and rarities”
(Upbeat Records)

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Beast Rest Forth MouthBear In Heaven
“Lovesick Teenagers” (mp3)
from “Beast Rest Forth Mouth”
(Hometapes)

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30 Year Low + bonus disc The Final Remarks of the Legendary MalcontentMendoza Line, The
“It Helps to Leave the House” (mp3)
from “30 Year Low + bonus disc The Final Remarks of the Legendary Malcontent”
(Glurp Records)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/05/50-sneaking-back-in/feed/ 2 This week we talk to show favourite Lynn about the dramatic breakup of her marriage. She gets kicked out, rallies, learns some lessons, and kicks herself right back in. Theme music my Drew Danburry, other music by: CAKE “It’s Coming Down” (mp3) from “b-sides and rarities” (Upbeat Records) More On This Album Bear In Heaven “Lovesick Teenagers” (mp3) from “Beast Rest Forth Mouth” (Hometapes) More On This Album Mendoza Line, The “It Helps to Leave the House” (mp3) from “30 Year Low + bonus disc The Final Remarks of the Legendary Malcontent” (Glurp Records) More On This Album This week we talk to show favourite Lynn about the dramatic breakup of her marriage. She gets kicked out, rallies, learns some lessons, and kicks herself right back in. Theme music my Drew Danburry, other music by: CAKE “It’s Coming Down” [...] JP & Elah 36:27 yes #49: A Few Too Many http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/49-a-few-too-many/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/49-a-few-too-many/#comments Fri, 29 Apr 2011 13:50:31 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1201 This week, we get drunk. In possibly the most misguided experiment in ILY’s less than illustrious history, we decide to explore this week’s theme (mind-altering substances) while under the influence. You know how it sucks when everyone around you is drunk & high and you’re completely sober? Well, this isn’t like that. We’re the most fun we’ve ever been, or at least, we thought so at the time.

Note: Though we preach to the children a few too many times this episode (a la How I Met Your Mother), this show is NOT for kids.

Music this week by…

Stateless (...Plus)Lene Lovich
“I Think We’re Alone Now” (mp3)
from “Stateless (…Plus)”
(Oval Music)

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Mutual Feelings of Respect and AdmirationSean Nicholas Savage
“Disco Dancing” (mp3)
from “Mutual Feelings of Respect and Admiration”
(Arbutus Records)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/49-a-few-too-many/feed/ 0 This week, we get drunk. In possibly the most misguided experiment in ILY’s less than illustrious history, we decide to explore this week’s theme (mind-altering substances) while under the influence. You know how it sucks when everyone around you is drunk & high and you’re completely sober? Well, this isn’t like that. We’re the most fun we’ve ever been, or at least, we thought so at the time. Note: Though we preach to the children a few too many times this episode (a la How I Met Your Mother), this show is NOT for kids. Music this week by… Lene Lovich “I Think We’re Alone Now” (mp3) from “Stateless (…Plus)” (Oval Music) More On This Album Sean Nicholas Savage “Disco Dancing” (mp3) from “Mutual Feelings of Respect and Admiration” (Arbutus Records) More On This Album This week, we get drunk. In possibly the most misguided experiment in ILY’s less than illustrious history, we decide to explore this week’s theme (mind-altering substances) while under the influence. You know how it sucks when everyone around [...] JP & Elah 25:40 yes #48: Gay Talk http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/48-gay-talk/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/48-gay-talk/#comments Fri, 22 Apr 2011 18:15:09 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1190

This week, we talk to Jeremy about gay stuff, like why it sucks when people call it a choice, but also sucks when they insist it isn’t, and what the deal is with biphobia (in case it isn’t super clear, we love bi people. We were just trying to explain why other people are jerks. Some of our favourite girlfriends have been bi).

SoleSides Greatest BumpsLatyrx
“Lady Don’t Tek No” (mp3)
from “SoleSides Greatest Bumps”
(Quannum Projects)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/48-gay-talk/feed/ 0 This week, we talk to Jeremy about gay stuff, like why it sucks when people call it a choice, but also sucks when they insist it isn’t, and what the deal is with biphobia (in case it isn’t super clear, we love bi people. We were just trying to explain why other people are jerks. Some of our favourite girlfriends have been bi). Latyrx “Lady Don’t Tek No” (mp3) from “SoleSides Greatest Bumps” (Quannum Projects) More On This Album This week, we talk to Jeremy about gay stuff, like why it sucks when people call it a choice, but also sucks when they insist it isn’t, and what the deal is with biphobia (in case it isn’t super clear, we love bi people. We were just trying to [...] JP & Elah 26:19 yes #47: My Biggest Mistake http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/47-my-biggest-mistake/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/47-my-biggest-mistake/#comments Fri, 15 Apr 2011 11:34:35 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1161

We’re back! Hope you enjoyed the reruns!

This week’s brand-new episode features storyteller Sage Tyrtle’s biggest mistake, and how she got through it.

Theme music by Drew Danburry.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/47-my-biggest-mistake/feed/ 6 We’re back! Hope you enjoyed the reruns! This week’s brand-new episode features storyteller Sage Tyrtle’s biggest mistake, and how she got through it. Theme music by Drew Danburry. We’re back! Hope you enjoyed the reruns! This week’s brand-new episode features storyteller Sage Tyrtle’s biggest mistake, and how she got through it. Theme music by Drew Danburry. JP & Elah 32:47 yes Song for D http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/song-for-d/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/song-for-d/#comments Thu, 14 Apr 2011 13:54:38 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1145

Even though she won’t listen to this, and probably prefers we never wrote it, this one is for D, with much love.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/song-for-d/feed/ 1 Even though she won’t listen to this, and probably prefers we never wrote it, this one is for D, with much love. Even though she won’t listen to this, and probably prefers we never wrote it, this one is for D, with much love. JP & Elah 6:07 yes #35: The Curious Curse of Online Dating [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating-rerun/#comments Sat, 09 Apr 2011 10:22:12 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1133

JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. [keep reading the original post]

We’re back next week with a brand new episode! Yay!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating-rerun/feed/ 0 JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. [keep reading the original post] We’re back next week with a brand new episode! Yay! JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. [keep reading the original post] We’re back next week with a brand new episode! Yay! JP & Elah 26:12 yes #28: The High School Teacher [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/28-the-high-school-teacher-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/28-the-high-school-teacher-rerun/#comments Fri, 01 Apr 2011 12:38:16 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1118

A high school student’s affair with a teacher. This story is a little hard to listen to at times (and a lot graphic at times), but definitely one of our favourites.

Original blog post, including song credits can be found here.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/04/28-the-high-school-teacher-rerun/feed/ 0 A high school student’s affair with a teacher. This story is a little hard to listen to at times (and a lot graphic at times), but definitely one of our favourites. Original blog post, including song credits can be found here. A high school student’s affair with a teacher. This story is a little hard to listen to at times (and a lot graphic at times), but definitely one of our favourites. Original blog post, including song credits can be found here. JP & Elah 35:13 yes #19: Time Capsules [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/19-time-capsules-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/19-time-capsules-rerun/#comments Fri, 25 Mar 2011 13:24:45 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1099

What would it feel like to rediscover letters and tapes from your first love a decade later (on paper and cassettes!)? Would they seem quaint and naive?  Inspiring and poetic?   Sierra Bellows does just that and reports back.  This one’s a show favourite, and a time capsule in its own right, albeit not a very old one.

We’re back mid-April with all new episodes!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/19-time-capsules-rerun/feed/ 0 What would it feel like to rediscover letters and tapes from your first love a decade later (on paper and cassettes!)? Would they seem quaint and naive?  Inspiring and poetic?   Sierra Bellows does just that and reports back.  This one’s a show favourite, and a time capsule in its own right, albeit not a very old one. We’re back mid-April with all new episodes! What would it feel like to rediscover letters and tapes from your first love a decade later (on paper and cassettes!)? Would they seem quaint and naive?  Inspiring and poetic?   Sierra Bellows does just that and reports back.  This one’s a [...] JP & Elah 9:33 yes #10: Studies Show [rerun] http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/10-studies-show-rerun/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/10-studies-show-rerun/#comments Fri, 18 Mar 2011 17:12:41 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1081

It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong. This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating… [view original post and comments]

We’ll be back with all-new episodes April 15th 2011!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/10-studies-show-rerun/feed/ 0 It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong. This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating… [view original post and comments] We’ll be back with all-new episodes April 15th 2011! It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong. This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating… [view original post and comments] We’ll be [...] JP & Elah 25:52 yes #46: One Year of Liking You http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/ilyversary/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/ilyversary/#comments Fri, 11 Mar 2011 05:01:42 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1066

Gosh, has it been a year already? This week JP and Elah reminisce about the a year of muddling their way through dating, making a show, and not killing each other. [Little Birdy Card by esauer26]

Thanks so much to everyone who’s taken the time to listen and to those who sent kind words to us over the past year. We like that you like us, and we like you too. You put ginormous smiles on our faces :)

Theme music by Drew Danburry. Other music by:

Just for FunEGB
“Time Travel” (mp3)
from “Just for Fun”
(Distrophonix)

More On This Album

FantasiesMetric
“Gimme Sympathy” (mp3)
from “Fantasies”
(Arts & Crafts Mexico)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/03/ilyversary/feed/ 0 Gosh, has it been a year already? This week JP and Elah reminisce about the a year of muddling their way through dating, making a show, and not killing each other. [Little Birdy Card by esauer26] Thanks so much to everyone who’s taken the time to listen and to those who sent kind words to us over the past year. We like that you like us, and we like you too. You put ginormous smiles on our faces Theme music by Drew Danburry. Other music by: EGB “Time Travel” (mp3) from “Just for Fun” (Distrophonix) More On This Album Metric “Gimme Sympathy” (mp3) from “Fantasies” (Arts & Crafts Mexico) More On This Album Gosh, has it been a year already? This week JP and Elah reminisce about the a year of muddling their way through dating, making a show, and not killing each other. [Little Birdy Card by esauer26] Thanks so much to everyone who’s taken the time to [...] JP & Elah 35:46 yes #45: Faster Than a Hard-Boiled Egg http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/45-speed-dates/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/45-speed-dates/#comments Fri, 25 Feb 2011 17:18:11 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1038 From Thomas Hawk on Flickr, Creative Commons

Elah goes speed dating – queer Jewish speed dating, which is the very best kind.

Show notes:

  • Kulanu Toronto is the group that organized the event.
  • Somewhere Out There can be listened to here.

Music this week by Drew Danburry and

Come See About MeMo-Tunes
“Come See About Me” (mp3)
from “Come See About Me”
(Black Market Music)

More On This Album

GaloreDragonette
“I Get Around” (mp3)
from “Galore”
(I Surrender Records)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/45-speed-dates/feed/ 1 Elah goes speed dating – queer Jewish speed dating, which is the very best kind. Show notes: Kulanu Toronto is the group that organized the event. Somewhere Out There can be listened to here. Music this week by Drew Danburry and Mo-Tunes “Come See About Me” (mp3) from “Come See About Me” (Black Market Music) More On This Album Dragonette “I Get Around” (mp3) from “Galore” (I Surrender Records) More On This Album Elah goes speed dating – queer Jewish speed dating, which is the very best kind. Show notes: Kulanu Toronto is the group that organized the event. Somewhere Out There can be listened to here. Music this week by Drew Danburry and Mo-Tunes “Come [...] JP & Elah 22:56 yes #44: Inside the Bathhouse http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/44-inside-the-bathhouse/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/44-inside-the-bathhouse/#comments Fri, 18 Feb 2011 20:15:56 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1025 Picture by Shirin K. A. Winiger (not a bathhouse)

Bathhouse tales from insiders – this week, we get the lowdown from a customer, as well as Peter Bochove, the legendary Toronto entrepreneur. Pull up a seat, and let us regale you with stories of secret plots, lawsuits, the lengths some people will go to for their soup and crackers, and yes, sex too.

Music by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke and…

b-sides and raritiesCAKE
“Conroy” (mp3)
from “b-sides and rarities”
(Upbeat Records)


More On This Album

Same GiiRLAuburn
“EWWW!!!” (mp3)
from “Same GiiRL”
(FS Music)

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The Gay EPMuckafurgason
“You Ain’t a Man (East)” (mp3)
from “The Gay EP”
(Deep Elm)


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Bobby's Girl - The Complete Seville RecordingsMarcie Blane
“What Does A Girl Do?” (mp3)
from “Bobby’s Girl – The Complete Seville Recordings”
(President)

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The Smell Of Our OwnThe Hidden Cameras
“Ban Marriage” (mp3)
from “The Smell Of Our Own”
(Outside Music)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/44-inside-the-bathhouse/feed/ 4 Bathhouse tales from insiders – this week, we get the lowdown from a customer, as well as Peter Bochove, the legendary Toronto entrepreneur. Pull up a seat, and let us regale you with stories of secret plots, lawsuits, the lengths some people will go to for their soup and crackers, and yes, sex too. Music by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke and… CAKE “Conroy” (mp3) from “b-sides and rarities” (Upbeat Records) More On This Album Auburn “EWWW!!!” (mp3) from “Same GiiRL” (FS Music) More On This Album Muckafurgason “You Ain’t a Man (East)” (mp3) from “The Gay EP” (Deep Elm) More On This Album Marcie Blane “What Does A Girl Do?” (mp3) from “Bobby’s Girl – The Complete Seville Recordings” (President) More On This Album The Hidden Cameras “Ban Marriage” (mp3) from “The Smell Of Our Own” (Outside Music) More On This Album Bathhouse tales from insiders – this week, we get the lowdown from a customer, as well as Peter Bochove, the legendary Toronto entrepreneur. Pull up a seat, and let us regale you with stories of secret plots, lawsuits, the lengths some people [...] JP & Elah 39:33 yes #43: Valentimes http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/43-valentimes/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/43-valentimes/#comments Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:35:51 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=1007

Happy Valentine’s Day!

We’re lucky to be sharing this very special edition of our show with two contributors:

First up we have former guest Jenn‘s tribute to Valentine’s Day, the most wonderful day of the year (allegedly).

Later, former contributor Bendan Fitzgerald shares the story of musicians Paul Curreri and Devon Sproule, who play a special show every Valentine’s Day, and are generally just kinda great together.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, all other music this week by Paul Curreri and Devon Sproule.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/43-valentimes/feed/ 2 Happy Valentine’s Day! We’re lucky to be sharing this very special edition of our show with two contributors: First up we have former guest Jenn‘s tribute to Valentine’s Day, the most wonderful day of the year (allegedly). Later, former contributor Bendan Fitzgerald shares the story of musicians Paul Curreri and Devon Sproule, who play a special show every Valentine’s Day, and are generally just kinda great together. Theme music by Drew Danburry, all other music this week by Paul Curreri and Devon Sproule. Happy Valentine’s Day! We’re lucky to be sharing this very special edition of our show with two contributors: First up we have former guest Jenn‘s tribute to Valentine’s Day, the most wonderful day of the year (allegedly). Later, former [...] JP & Elah 32:43 yes #42: All Broken Up http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/42-all-broken-up/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/42-all-broken-up/#comments Fri, 04 Feb 2011 05:01:17 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=982

We are broken up. What should we do? This week we over-think our recent breakups.

*sigh*

Let’s get this over with.

Oh yeah, stupid Valentine’s is next week so leave us a message with your stupid Valentine’s Day stories and opinions at 1-888-854-5337.

I’m sorry I called your stories stupid, I bet they’re great.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Little Me Will Start A StormLoch Lomond
“Elephants & Little Girls” (mp3)
from “Little Me Will Start A Storm”
(Tender Loving Empire)

More On This Album

Run Wolves RunSean Hayes
“When We Fall In” (mp3)
from “Run Wolves Run”
(Sean Hayes)

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QuartersTruckasauras
“Quarters” (mp3)
from “Quarters”
(Fourthcity)

More On This Album

An Inconvenient Truth - SoundtrackMichael Brook
“Election” (mp3)
from “An Inconvenient Truth – Soundtrack”
(bigHelium/Canadian Rational)

More On This Album

S/TThis Will Destroy You
“Threads” (mp3)
from “S/T”
(Magic Bullet)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/02/42-all-broken-up/feed/ 4 We are broken up. What should we do? This week we over-think our recent breakups. *sigh* Let’s get this over with. Oh yeah, stupid Valentine’s is next week so leave us a message with your stupid Valentine’s Day stories and opinions at 1-888-854-5337. I’m sorry I called your stories stupid, I bet they’re great. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by: Loch Lomond “Elephants & Little Girls” (mp3) from “Little Me Will Start A Storm” (Tender Loving Empire) More On This Album Sean Hayes “When We Fall In” (mp3) from “Run Wolves Run” (Sean Hayes) More On This Album Truckasauras “Quarters” (mp3) from “Quarters” (Fourthcity) More On This Album Michael Brook “Election” (mp3) from “An Inconvenient Truth – Soundtrack” (bigHelium/Canadian Rational) More On This Album This Will Destroy You “Threads” (mp3) from “S/T” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album We are broken up. What should we do? This week we over-think our recent breakups. *sigh* Let’s get this over with. Oh yeah, stupid Valentine’s is next week so leave us a message with your stupid Valentine’s Day stories and opinions at [...] JP & Elah 24:20 yes #41: Frelations http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/41-frelations/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/41-frelations/#comments Fri, 28 Jan 2011 17:49:33 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=856 by Scott Beale/Laughing Squid, laughingsquid.com

Friends you have sex with – no talking, no feelings, just good times (i.e. the opposite of talking and feelings?).  Jessie tells us all about her long-term friendship with benefits.

Show notes:

  • Frelationship = Friend + Relationship.  We challenge you to come up with a better word!
  • JP figures out how he can profit, monetarily, from this arrangement.

Music by:

Get Down - With My FriendsAloe Blacc and Kero One
“With My Friends” (mp3)
from “Get Down – With My Friends”
(PLUG Label)

More On This Album

Dance AloneLillix
“Dance Alone” (mp3)
from “Dance Alone”
(Adagio Music Inc)

More On This Album

Baby I Got It (Money Money Money) - SingleFemi
“Baby I Got It (Money Money Money) ft. Eedris Abdulkareem” (mp3)
from “Baby I Got It (Money Money Money) – Single”
(Kennis Music)

More On This Album

Allo Darlin'Allo Darlin’
“Dreaming” (mp3)
from “Allo Darlin’”
(Fortuna POP!)

More On This Album

Image from Scott Beale/Laughing Squid, creative commons.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/41-frelations/feed/ 5 Friends you have sex with – no talking, no feelings, just good times (i.e. the opposite of talking and feelings?).  Jessie tells us all about her long-term friendship with benefits. Show notes: Frelationship = Friend + Relationship.  We challenge you to come up with a better word! JP figures out how he can profit, monetarily, from this arrangement. Music by: Aloe Blacc and Kero One “With My Friends” (mp3) from “Get Down – With My Friends” (PLUG Label) More On This Album Lillix “Dance Alone” (mp3) from “Dance Alone” (Adagio Music Inc) More On This Album Femi “Baby I Got It (Money Money Money) ft. Eedris Abdulkareem” (mp3) from “Baby I Got It (Money Money Money) – Single” (Kennis Music) More On This Album Allo Darlin’ “Dreaming” (mp3) from “Allo Darlin’” (Fortuna POP!) More On This Album Image from Scott Beale/Laughing Squid, creative commons. Friends you have sex with – no talking, no feelings, just good times (i.e. the opposite of talking and feelings?).  Jessie tells us all about her long-term friendship with benefits. Show notes: Frelationship = Friend + Relationship.  We [...] JP and Elah 24:20 yes #40: Rejection 101 http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/40-rejection-101/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/40-rejection-101/#comments Fri, 21 Jan 2011 14:07:07 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=837

The experienced rejecter is like a surgeon, cutting themselves out of your life quickly and painlessly.  Matthew Harris drops by to explain how it’s done, drawing on his many harrowing experiences as the rejected.

Show notes:

  • Matthew is, in fact, very attractive.
  • Music this week by…

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“The Kid” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

More On This Album

Call MeThe Pipettes
“Call Me” (mp3)
from “Call Me”
(Fortuna POP)

More On This Album

Mutual Feelings of Respect and AdmirationSean Nicholas Savage
“Disco Dancing” (mp3)
from “Mutual Feelings of Respect and Admiration”
(Arbutus Records)

More On This Album

Comeback CadillacThe Weeks
“Hold It, Kid (Your Heart Just Skipped a Beat)” (mp3)
from “Comeback Cadillac”
(Esperanza Plantation)

More On This Album

Allo Darlin'Allo Darlin’
“My Heart is a Drummer” (mp3)
from “Allo Darlin’”
(Fortuna POP)

More On This Album

Photo courtesy of Caro Wallis, creative commons.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/40-rejection-101/feed/ 0 The experienced rejecter is like a surgeon, cutting themselves out of your life quickly and painlessly.  Matthew Harris drops by to explain how it’s done, drawing on his many harrowing experiences as the rejected. Show notes: Matthew is, in fact, very attractive. Music this week by… Marc Ribot “The Kid” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album The Pipettes “Call Me” (mp3) from “Call Me” (Fortuna POP) More On This Album Sean Nicholas Savage “Disco Dancing” (mp3) from “Mutual Feelings of Respect and Admiration” (Arbutus Records) More On This Album The Weeks “Hold It, Kid (Your Heart Just Skipped a Beat)” (mp3) from “Comeback Cadillac” (Esperanza Plantation) More On This Album Allo Darlin’ “My Heart is a Drummer” (mp3) from “Allo Darlin’” (Fortuna POP) More On This Album Photo courtesy of Caro Wallis, creative commons. The experienced rejecter is like a surgeon, cutting themselves out of your life quickly and painlessly.  Matthew Harris drops by to explain how it’s done, drawing on his many harrowing experiences as the rejected. Show notes: Matthew is, in [...] JP & Elah 28:52 yes #39: The Secret of My Success http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/39-the-secret-of-my-success/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/39-the-secret-of-my-success/#comments Fri, 14 Jan 2011 04:15:21 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=788

JP’s parents have been married for 35 years.  On this week’s show they share the secret to their success with honesty and humour.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.

Other music provided by:

Live At the PantagesDan Wilson
“Hand on My Heart” (mp3)
from “Live At the Pantages”
(Ballroom Music)

More On This Album

Live TogetherMetermaid
“Live Together” (mp3)
from “Live Together”
(Autonomous Records)

More On This Album

Live At the PantagesDan Wilson
“Singing in My Sleep” (mp3)
from “Live At the Pantages”
(Ballroom Music)

More On This Album

Spinning the MomentsGene Pierson
“You Got to Me” (mp3)
from “Spinning the Moments”
(Indigenous Australia PTY Ltd.)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/39-the-secret-of-my-success/feed/ 0 JP’s parents have been married for 35 years.  On this week’s show they share the secret to their success with honesty and humour. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music provided by: Dan Wilson “Hand on My Heart” (mp3) from “Live At the Pantages” (Ballroom Music) More On This Album Metermaid “Live Together” (mp3) from “Live Together” (Autonomous Records) More On This Album Dan Wilson “Singing in My Sleep” (mp3) from “Live At the Pantages” (Ballroom Music) More On This Album Gene Pierson “You Got to Me” (mp3) from “Spinning the Moments” (Indigenous Australia PTY Ltd.) More On This Album JP’s parents have been married for 35 years.  On this week’s show they share the secret to their success with honesty and humour. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music provided by: Dan Wilson “Hand on My Heart” (mp3) from [...] JP & Elah 34:25 yes #38: Dating-o-lutions http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/38-dating-o-lutions/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/38-dating-o-lutions/#comments Fri, 07 Jan 2011 05:57:08 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=778

Happy New Year!  One week into 2011 we’re talking resolutions. Glamour Magazine’s 2011 Dating-o-lutions provides the canvas on which we spread our silliness.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.

Other music provided by:

America's Most WantedAkshun
“MTL Anthem (feat. Kaybe)” (mp3)
from “America’s Most Wanted”
(Lunetz/Les200)

More On This Album


Auld Lang Syne - New Year's Eve PartyThe London Fox Players
“Auld Lang Syne Party” (mp3)
from “Auld Lang Syne – New Year’s Eve Party”
(Classic Fox Records)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2011/01/38-dating-o-lutions/feed/ 1 Happy New Year!  One week into 2011 we’re talking resolutions. Glamour Magazine’s 2011 Dating-o-lutions provides the canvas on which we spread our silliness. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music provided by: Akshun “MTL Anthem (feat. Kaybe)” (mp3) from “America’s Most Wanted” (Lunetz/Les200) More On This Album The London Fox Players “Auld Lang Syne Party” (mp3) from “Auld Lang Syne – New Year’s Eve Party” (Classic Fox Records) More On This Album Happy New Year!  One week into 2011 we’re talking resolutions. Glamour Magazine’s 2011 Dating-o-lutions provides the canvas on which we spread our silliness. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music provided by: Akshun “MTL [...] JP & Elah 21:38 yes #37: Just Friends http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/37-just-friends/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/37-just-friends/#comments Wed, 22 Dec 2010 17:46:02 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=701

The dreaded friend zone!  Meredith shares a story about her years of friendly frustration and how she managed to escape.

Show notes:

  • See more from Meredith at overthinkingmom.com.
  • Elah’s mom drops by to tell us what she doesn’t think of the show.

Extra music this week from:

The VibesAkiko Moriyako
“Sublime” (mp3)
from “The Vibes”
(Domo Records)

More On This Album

Les ShelleysLes Shelleys
“The World Is Waiting For The Sunrise” (mp3)
from “Les Shelleys”
(Fat Cat Records)

More On This Album

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“Delancey Waltz” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

More On This Album

If Loneliness Was ArtAllo Darlin’
“If Loneliness Was Art” (mp3)
from “If Loneliness Was Art”
(Fortuna POP)

More On This Album

Come See About MeMo-Tunes
“Come See About Me” (mp3)
from “Come See About Me”
(Black Market Music)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/37-just-friends/feed/ 0 The dreaded friend zone!  Meredith shares a story about her years of friendly frustration and how she managed to escape. Show notes: See more from Meredith at overthinkingmom.com. Elah’s mom drops by to tell us what she doesn’t think of the show. Extra music this week from: Akiko Moriyako “Sublime” (mp3) from “The Vibes” (Domo Records) More On This Album Les Shelleys “The World Is Waiting For The Sunrise” (mp3) from “Les Shelleys” (Fat Cat Records) More On This Album Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album Allo Darlin’ “If Loneliness Was Art” (mp3) from “If Loneliness Was Art” (Fortuna POP) More On This Album Mo-Tunes “Come See About Me” (mp3) from “Come See About Me” (Black Market Music) More On This Album The dreaded friend zone!  Meredith shares a story about her years of friendly frustration and how she managed to escape. Show notes: See more from Meredith at overthinkingmom.com. Elah’s mom drops by to tell us what she doesn’t think of the [...] JP & Elah 21:42 yes #36: The Personals, Great-Grandpa Style http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/36-the-personals-great-grandpa-style/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/36-the-personals-great-grandpa-style/#comments Sat, 11 Dec 2010 20:07:21 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=693

We talk to researcher Pam Epstein about personal ads from the mid 1800s to early 1900s in America. Missed connections, poetry, crypto-gay ads, s&m, and more!

Show notes:

  • Pam’s blog is advertisingforlove.com
  • Romantic readings from regular contributors Sierra & Brendan
  • Music by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke and…

Silent MoviesMarc Ribot
“Delancey Waltz” (mp3)
from “Silent Movies”
(Pi Recordings)

More On This Album

Who I AmAngel Miller
“Bridge Over Troubled Water” (mp3)
from “Who I Am”
(Northern Shore Productions)

More On This Album

Image from Wisconsin Historical Images.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/36-the-personals-great-grandpa-style/feed/ 0 We talk to researcher Pam Epstein about personal ads from the mid 1800s to early 1900s in America. Missed connections, poetry, crypto-gay ads, s&m, and more! Show notes: Pam’s blog is advertisingforlove.com Romantic readings from regular contributors Sierra & Brendan Music by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke and… Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” (mp3) from “Silent Movies” (Pi Recordings) More On This Album Angel Miller “Bridge Over Troubled Water” (mp3) from “Who I Am” (Northern Shore Productions) More On This Album Image from Wisconsin Historical Images. We talk to researcher Pam Epstein about personal ads from the mid 1800s to early 1900s in America. Missed connections, poetry, crypto-gay ads, s&m, and more! Show notes: Pam’s blog is advertisingforlove.com Romantic readings from regular [...] JP & Elah 27:18 yes #35: The Curious Curse of Online Dating http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating/#comments Mon, 06 Dec 2010 18:33:55 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=685

JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain.

Show notes:

Our inspiration is researcher Dan Ariely and his quest to find out why online dating is so unsatisfying. Ariely studies other interesting stuff too, like “behavioral economics”, which is much cooler than it sounds. Check out his book, Predictably Irrational. You can get the audiobook free by signing up for the Audible trial.

Theme song by Drew Danburry, and the rest by:
If Loneliness Was ArtAllo Darlin’
“If Loneliness Was Art” (mp3)
from “If Loneliness Was Art”
(Fortuna POP)

More On This Album

Old FriendsIan Whitcomb
“Somebody Stole My Gal” (mp3)
from “Old Friends”
(ITW Records)

More On This Album

(If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don't Want to Be RightLuther Ingram
“I’ll Be Your Shelter (In Time of Storm)” (mp3)
from “(If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don’t Want to Be Right”
(LocoBop)

More On This Album

StarfuckerStarfucker
“German Love” (mp3)
from “Starfucker”
(Badman Recording Co)

More On This Album

Photo by Don Hankins, creative commons

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/12/35-the-curious-curse-of-online-dating/feed/ 0 JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. Show notes: Our inspiration is researcher Dan Ariely and his quest to find out why online dating is so unsatisfying. Ariely studies other interesting stuff too, like “behavioral economics”, which is much cooler than it sounds. Check out his book, Predictably Irrational. You can get the audiobook free by signing up for the Audible trial. Theme song by Drew Danburry, and the rest by: Allo Darlin’ “If Loneliness Was Art” (mp3) from “If Loneliness Was Art” (Fortuna POP) More On This Album Ian Whitcomb “Somebody Stole My Gal” (mp3) from “Old Friends” (ITW Records) More On This Album Luther Ingram “I’ll Be Your Shelter (In Time of Storm)” (mp3) from “(If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don’t Want to Be Right” (LocoBop) More On This Album Starfucker “German Love” (mp3) from “Starfucker” (Badman Recording Co) More On This Album Photo by Don Hankins, creative commons JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. Show notes: Our inspiration is researcher Dan Ariely and his quest to find out why online [...] JP & Elah 26:57 yes #34: Going the Distance http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/34-going-the-distance/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/34-going-the-distance/#comments Thu, 25 Nov 2010 23:32:04 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=643 Living apart is no fun, there are no snuggles, no sex, no gazing into each others’ eyes… This week we talk to Ben about his experience with long distance relationships.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.  Other music provided by:

The Toronto SessionsArchie Edwards
“I Called My Baby Long Distance” (mp3)
from “The Toronto Sessions”
(Northern Blues)

More On This Album

Kid SongsSalteens
“All My Friends Are Different” (mp3)
from “Kid Songs”
(Boompa Records)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/34-going-the-distance/feed/ 0 Living apart is no fun, there are no snuggles, no sex, no gazing into each others’ eyes… This week we talk to Ben about his experience with long distance relationships. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.  Other music provided by: Archie Edwards “I Called My Baby Long Distance” (mp3) from “The Toronto Sessions” (Northern Blues) More On This Album Salteens “All My Friends Are Different” (mp3) from “Kid Songs” (Boompa Records) More On This Album Living apart is no fun, there are no snuggles, no sex, no gazing into each others’ eyes… This week we talk to Ben about his experience with long distance relationships. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.  Other music provided by: Archie [...] JP & Elah 37:04 yes #33: One in the Hand http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/33-one-in-the-hand/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/33-one-in-the-hand/#comments Fri, 19 Nov 2010 02:43:06 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=639 Friend of the show Lynn returns this week with a story of a date gone horribly awry.  Don’t worry though, there’s a happy ending.

Theme music as always by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Dance AloneLillix
“Dance Alone” (mp3)
from “Dance Alone”
(Adagio Music Inc)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/33-one-in-the-hand/feed/ 0 Friend of the show Lynn returns this week with a story of a date gone horribly awry.  Don’t worry though, there’s a happy ending. Theme music as always by Drew Danburry, other music by: Lillix “Dance Alone” (mp3) from “Dance Alone” (Adagio Music Inc) More On This Album Friend of the show Lynn returns this week with a story of a date gone horribly awry.  Don’t worry though, there’s a happy ending. Theme music as always by Drew Danburry, other music by: Lillix “Dance Alone” (mp3) from “Dance Alone” [...] JP & Elah 22:36 yes #32: It’s Over http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/32-its-over/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/32-its-over/#comments Fri, 12 Nov 2010 11:00:00 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=626 The end of a relationship – how it happens, why it happens, who says what.  Sierra Bellows takes these questions to people in her town, and shares their answers.  As the album below says, THIS WILL DESTROY YOU.

Sierra by Eliza Evans

The person who will destroy you (Sierra’s portrait by Eliza Evans)

Extra songs this week:

Young MountainThis Will Destroy You
“Quiet” (mp3)
from “Young Mountain”
(Magic Bullet)

More On This Album

Young MountainThis Will Destroy You
“The World Is Our ___” (mp3)
from “Young Mountain”
(Magic Bullet)

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Colour GreenSibylle Baier
“Tonight” (mp3)
from “Colour Green”
(Orange Twin Records)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/32-its-over/feed/ 2 The end of a relationship – how it happens, why it happens, who says what.  Sierra Bellows takes these questions to people in her town, and shares their answers.  As the album below says, THIS WILL DESTROY YOU. The person who will destroy you (Sierra’s portrait by Eliza Evans) Extra songs this week: This Will Destroy You “Quiet” (mp3) from “Young Mountain” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album This Will Destroy You “The World Is Our ___” (mp3) from “Young Mountain” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album Sibylle Baier “Tonight” (mp3) from “Colour Green” (Orange Twin Records) More On This Album The end of a relationship – how it happens, why it happens, who says what.  Sierra Bellows takes these questions to people in her town, and shares their answers.  As the album below says, THIS WILL DESTROY YOU. The person who will destroy you [...] JP & Elah 20:44 yes #31: It’s Not You, It’s Us (Or Me?) http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/31-its-not-you-its-us-but-maybe-me/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/31-its-not-you-its-us-but-maybe-me/#comments Fri, 05 Nov 2010 13:34:22 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=617 Why you should be afraid of commitment, psychics, and living in cages, or why you shouldn’t be.  We didn’t come to any firm conclusions on these issues, but Claire helped us navigate the way through our confused thoughts.

Theme song by Drew Danburry of course, and other songs this week by

SantogoldSantogold
“L.E.S Artistes” (mp3)
from “Santogold”
(Lizard King)

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Allo Darlin'Allo Darlin’
“Dreaming” (mp3)
from “Allo Darlin’”
(Fortuna POP)

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The Absent ParadeNick Light
“Always Together” (mp3)
from “The Absent Parade”
(athensmusic.net)

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As It Must BeJoey Ryan
“As It Must Be” (mp3)
from “As It Must Be”
(Mophonics)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/11/31-its-not-you-its-us-but-maybe-me/feed/ 0 Why you should be afraid of commitment, psychics, and living in cages, or why you shouldn’t be.  We didn’t come to any firm conclusions on these issues, but Claire helped us navigate the way through our confused thoughts. Theme song by Drew Danburry of course, and other songs this week by Santogold “L.E.S Artistes” (mp3) from “Santogold” (Lizard King) More On This Album Allo Darlin’ “Dreaming” (mp3) from “Allo Darlin’” (Fortuna POP) More On This Album Nick Light “Always Together” (mp3) from “The Absent Parade” (athensmusic.net) More On This Album Joey Ryan “As It Must Be” (mp3) from “As It Must Be” (Mophonics) More On This Album Why you should be afraid of commitment, psychics, and living in cages, or why you shouldn’t be.  We didn’t come to any firm conclusions on these issues, but Claire helped us navigate the way through our confused thoughts. Theme song by Drew [...] JP & Elah 21:34 yes #30: My Old Man http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/30-the-old-man-and-the-see-you-later/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/30-the-old-man-and-the-see-you-later/#comments Fri, 29 Oct 2010 22:59:42 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=600 She was 22, he was 39, they dated for 10 years and nearly got married three times… and then it ended. This week we talk to Jenn about her neurotic ex and where she’s headed from here. You can read about Jenn’s adventures in online dating on her blog: The Old Man and the See You Later.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by:

Mortyfied!The New Morty Show
“White Wedding / Rebel Yell Medley” (mp3)
from “Mortyfied!”
(The New Morty Show)

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Pure TrashDosh
“I Think I’m Getting Married” (mp3)
from “Pure Trash”
(anticon)

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Clean Up TimeRadha & The Kiwi Kids
“Clean Up Time” (mp3)
from “Clean Up Time”
(UCA)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/30-the-old-man-and-the-see-you-later/feed/ 2 She was 22, he was 39, they dated for 10 years and nearly got married three times… and then it ended. This week we talk to Jenn about her neurotic ex and where she’s headed from here. You can read about Jenn’s adventures in online dating on her blog: The Old Man and the See You Later. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by: The New Morty Show “White Wedding / Rebel Yell Medley” (mp3) from “Mortyfied!” (The New Morty Show) More On This Album Dosh “I Think I’m Getting Married” (mp3) from “Pure Trash” (anticon) More On This Album Radha & The Kiwi Kids “Clean Up Time” (mp3) from “Clean Up Time” (UCA) More On This Album She was 22, he was 39, they dated for 10 years and nearly got married three times… and then it ended. This week we talk to Jenn about her neurotic ex and where she’s headed from here. You can read about Jenn’s adventures in online dating on [...] JP & Elah 38:45 yes #29: The Best Policy http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/29-the-best-policy/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/29-the-best-policy/#comments Fri, 22 Oct 2010 04:01:46 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=575 Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships.

Theme and outro music by Drew Danburry, as always.  One other song by:

Low Down Where The Snakes CrawlCee Cee James
“I’ll Ask The Questions You Tell The Lies” (mp3)
from “Low Down Where The Snakes Crawl”
(Blue Skunk Music)

More On This Album

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/29-the-best-policy/feed/ 0 Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. Theme and outro music by Drew Danburry, as always.  One other song by: Cee Cee James “I’ll Ask The Questions You Tell The Lies” (mp3) from “Low Down Where The Snakes Crawl” (Blue Skunk Music) More On This Album Did you enjoy this episode? If so, consider making a small donation to support our efforts.  If money is tight you can provide moral support by reviewing us in iTunes, calling the like line or commenting below.  Thanks! Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. Theme and outro music by Drew Danburry, as always. [...] JP & Elah 23:27 yes #28: The High School Teacher http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/28-the-high-school-teacher/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/28-the-high-school-teacher/#comments Fri, 15 Oct 2010 04:01:33 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=565 Ever had a crush on a teacher?  Wonder what could have happened if you had pursued it? Lynn tells us about the affair she had with a teacher when she was 15 years old. Conclusion: Don’t do it, kids!

Music this week by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke, and…

StarfuckerStarfucker
“Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3)
from “Starfucker”
(Badman Recording Co)

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Stateless (...Plus)Lene Lovich
“I Think We’re Alone Now” (mp3)
from “Stateless (…Plus)”
(Oval Music)

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Comeback CadillacThe Weeks
“Hold It, Kid (Your Heart Just Skipped a Beat)” (mp3)
from “Comeback Cadillac”
(Esperanza Plantation)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/28-the-high-school-teacher/feed/ 1 Ever had a crush on a teacher?  Wonder what could have happened if you had pursued it? Lynn tells us about the affair she had with a teacher when she was 15 years old. Conclusion: Don’t do it, kids! Music this week by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke, and… Starfucker “Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” (mp3) from “Starfucker” (Badman Recording Co) More On This Album Lene Lovich “I Think We’re Alone Now” (mp3) from “Stateless (…Plus)” (Oval Music) More On This Album The Weeks “Hold It, Kid (Your Heart Just Skipped a Beat)” (mp3) from “Comeback Cadillac” (Esperanza Plantation) More On This Album Ever had a crush on a teacher?  Wonder what could have happened if you had pursued it? Lynn tells us about the affair she had with a teacher when she was 15 years old. Conclusion: Don’t do it, kids! Music this week by Drew Danburry, Abigail [...] JP & Elah 35:13 yes #27: Can’t Buy Me Love http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/27-cant-buy-me-love/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/27-cant-buy-me-love/#comments Fri, 08 Oct 2010 14:58:17 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=554 But I can buy me dates, and you can too.  We talk to Scott, president of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that online dates on behalf of people who don’t have the time (or possibly skills) to do it themselves.  Scott and his assistants have it down to a science.

Show notes:

  • In providing this service, what are the ethics of presenting yourself as someone else online?
  • If you’re a client, when do you tell your partner that wasn’t really you writing? Do you?
  • What kind of clients will Virtual Dating Assistants never work with?

Music this week by Drew Danburry and…

GaloreDragonette
“I Get Around” (mp3)
from “Galore”
(I Surrender Records)

More On This Album

Song and DanceBobby Broom
“Can’t Buy Me Love” (mp3)
from “Song and Dance”
(Origin Records)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/27-cant-buy-me-love/feed/ 0 But I can buy me dates, and you can too.  We talk to Scott, president of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that online dates on behalf of people who don’t have the time (or possibly skills) to do it themselves.  Scott and his assistants have it down to a science. Show notes: In providing this service, what are the ethics of presenting yourself as someone else online? If you’re a client, when do you tell your partner that wasn’t really you writing? Do you? What kind of clients will Virtual Dating Assistants never work with? Music this week by Drew Danburry and… Dragonette “I Get Around” (mp3) from “Galore” (I Surrender Records) More On This Album Bobby Broom “Can’t Buy Me Love” (mp3) from “Song and Dance” (Origin Records) More On This Album But I can buy me dates, and you can too.  We talk to Scott, president of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that online dates on behalf of people who don’t have the time (or possibly skills) to do it themselves.  Scott and his assistants have [...] JP & Elah 29:22 yes #26: Parent Trap http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/26-parent-trap/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/26-parent-trap/#comments Fri, 01 Oct 2010 04:01:41 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=543 Children need their independence, especially 28 year old children.  This week Jane tells us about her boyfriend’s clingy conservative Indian parents, and how their death grip on their son choked the life out of her relationship.

Theme and outro songs by Drew Danburry, other music by IODA Promonet:

What Becomes of the Brokenhearted- for Hurricane Katrina reliefThe dB’s
“What Becomes of the Brokenhearted” (mp3)
from “What Becomes of the Brokenhearted- for Hurricane Katrina relief”
(Orange Sound)

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]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/10/26-parent-trap/feed/ 0 Children need their independence, especially 28 year old children.  This week Jane tells us about her boyfriend’s clingy conservative Indian parents, and how their death grip on their son choked the life out of her relationship. Theme and outro songs by Drew Danburry, other music by IODA Promonet: The dB’s “What Becomes of the Brokenhearted” (mp3) from “What Becomes of the Brokenhearted- for Hurricane Katrina relief” (Orange Sound) More On This Album Children need their independence, especially 28 year old children.  This week Jane tells us about her boyfriend’s clingy conservative Indian parents, and how their death grip on their son choked the life out of her relationship. Theme and outro [...] JP & Elah 48:03 yes #25: It Gets Better http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/25-it-gets-better/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/25-it-gets-better/#comments Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:46:48 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=538 This week we tell you about Dan Savage’s new project: It Gets Better. The effort was inspired by the tragic story of Billy Lucas, a gay teen who committed suicide after being bullied mercilessly.  Savage hopes the stories from queer people who lived happily ever after will give teens the strength to survive, even when things seem hopeless.  We hope so too.

You can submit your video by uploading it to YouTube and emailing the URL to mail@savagelove.net

Music for this episode provided by Drew Danburry.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/25-it-gets-better/feed/ 0 This week we tell you about Dan Savage’s new project: It Gets Better. The effort was inspired by the tragic story of Billy Lucas, a gay teen who committed suicide after being bullied mercilessly.  Savage hopes the stories from queer people who lived happily ever after will give teens the strength to survive, even when things seem hopeless.  We hope so too. You can submit your video by uploading it to YouTube and emailing the URL to mail@savagelove.net Music for this episode provided by Drew Danburry. This week we tell you about Dan Savage’s new project: It Gets Better. The effort was inspired by the tragic story of Billy Lucas, a gay teen who committed suicide after being bullied mercilessly.  Savage hopes the stories from queer people who [...] JP & Elah 15:46 yes #24: A Bad Case of the Dates http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/24-a-bad-case-of-the-dates/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/24-a-bad-case-of-the-dates/#comments Fri, 17 Sep 2010 12:53:16 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=525 Jared of abadcaseofthedates.com shares the best of the worst dating stories with us.

Show notes:

  • Sitting on train tracks – good or bad date idea?
  • How a very beautiful scarf got in the way of love…
  • Find The Rebecca Project at Winter Twilight Productions

Thanks as always to Drew Danburry for theme and outro music, as well as:

Elf PowerElf Power
“Stranger in the Window” (mp3)
from “Elf Power”
(Orange Twin Records)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/24-a-bad-case-of-the-dates/feed/ 0 Jared of abadcaseofthedates.com shares the best of the worst dating stories with us. Show notes: Sitting on train tracks – good or bad date idea? How a very beautiful scarf got in the way of love… Find The Rebecca Project at Winter Twilight Productions Thanks as always to Drew Danburry for theme and outro music, as well as: Elf Power “Stranger in the Window” (mp3) from “Elf Power” (Orange Twin Records) More On This Album Jared of abadcaseofthedates.com shares the best of the worst dating stories with us. Show notes: Sitting on train tracks – good or bad date idea? How a very beautiful scarf got in the way of love… Find The Rebecca Project at Winter Twilight [...] JP & Elah 24:15 yes #23: 25 Ways to Avoid Touching http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/23-25-ways-to-avoid-touching/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/23-25-ways-to-avoid-touching/#comments Fri, 10 Sep 2010 14:05:41 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=504 Mini episode: Jessica Wells and her friend emerge from a post-breakup romantic purging process with a solid list of 25 ways to make your life touch-free.

Show notes:

  • Elah comes back from vacation to find a No Means No campaign sweeping her office.  Touching levels fall to all-time lows.
  • We offer you a counter-list: 25 Ways to Obtain Touch – and what JP meant to say was “sex worker”.
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/23-25-ways-to-avoid-touching/feed/ 0 Mini episode: Jessica Wells and her friend emerge from a post-breakup romantic purging process with a solid list of 25 ways to make your life touch-free. Show notes: Elah comes back from vacation to find a No Means No campaign sweeping her office.  Touching levels fall to all-time lows. We offer you a counter-list: 25 Ways to Obtain Touch – and what JP meant to say was “sex worker”. Mini episode: Jessica Wells and her friend emerge from a post-breakup romantic purging process with a solid list of 25 ways to make your life touch-free. Show notes: Elah comes back from vacation to find a No Means No campaign sweeping her [...] JP & Elah 11:55 yes #22: Back to the Future http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/22-back-to-the-future/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/22-back-to-the-future/#comments Fri, 03 Sep 2010 20:15:44 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=469 You can’t go back in time… but what if you could?  What would you change to make it all turn out differently?  To make it turn out for the better?  This week we explore a relationship where time seemed to fold back on itself and offer a chance to change the course of history.

by Eliza Evans

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to story contributor and guest, Brendan!
  • Brendan Fitzgerald lives in Charlottesville, Virginia, where he works as news editor of C-VILLE Weekly newspaper. His favourite of the three Back to the Future movies, is the second one.
  • Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music in this episode provided by IODA Promonet:

Young MountainThis Will Destroy You
“Quiet” (mp3)
from “Young Mountain”
(Magic Bullet)

More On This Album


Fixin to ThrillDragonette
“Pick Up The Phone” (mp3)
from “Fixin to Thrill”
(Dragonette Inc)

More On This Album


Flowering SpadeSean Hayes
“Time” (mp3)
from “Flowering Spade”
(Sean Hayes (no label))

More On This Album


New SeasonsThe Sadies
“Anna Leigh” (mp3)
from “New Seasons”
(Outside Music)

More On This Album

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/09/22-back-to-the-future/feed/ 0 You can’t go back in time… but what if you could?  What would you change to make it all turn out differently?  To make it turn out for the better?  This week we explore a relationship where time seemed to fold back on itself and offer a chance to change the course of history. by Eliza Evans Show Notes: Thanks to story contributor and guest, Brendan! Brendan Fitzgerald lives in Charlottesville, Virginia, where he works as news editor of C-VILLE Weekly newspaper. His favourite of the three Back to the Future movies, is the second one. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music in this episode provided by IODA Promonet: This Will Destroy You “Quiet” (mp3) from “Young Mountain” (Magic Bullet) More On This Album Dragonette “Pick Up The Phone” (mp3) from “Fixin to Thrill” (Dragonette Inc) More On This Album Sean Hayes “Time” (mp3) from “Flowering Spade” (Sean Hayes (no label)) More On This Album The Sadies “Anna Leigh” (mp3) from “New Seasons” (Outside Music) More On This Album You can’t go back in time… but what if you could?  What would you change to make it all turn out differently?  To make it turn out for the better?  This week we explore a relationship where time seemed to fold back on itself and offer a [...] JP & Elah 31:00 yes #21: ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes/#comments Fri, 27 Aug 2010 04:01:45 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=453 Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how.

Show Notes:

  • Welcome new listeners!  We had a huge traffic spike this week and I can’t figure out why, where did you all come from?
  • This week’s show is JP and Elah at their rawest and most lazily-edited – it’s practically live-to-tape!
  • Who needs guests when you’ve got banter like this!? (we need guest ideas… desperately… send in your suggestions!)
  • Music by Drew Danburry
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/21-ch-ch-ch-ch-changes/feed/ 1 Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how. Show Notes: Welcome new listeners!  We had a huge traffic spike this week and I can’t figure out why, where did you all come from? This week’s show is JP and Elah at their rawest and most lazily-edited – it’s practically live-to-tape! Who needs guests when you’ve got banter like this!? (we need guest ideas… desperately… send in your suggestions!) Music by Drew Danburry Ever tried to change a partner?  The way they act? The way they talk? The way they have sex?  This week JP and Elah try to figure out if it can be done, and if so, how. Show Notes: Welcome new listeners!  We had a huge traffic spike this week [...] JP & Elah 30:34 yes #20: Ryan and the Mechanical Bull http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/20-ryan-and-the-mechanical-bull/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/20-ryan-and-the-mechanical-bull/#comments Fri, 20 Aug 2010 13:43:06 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=449

JP and Elah interview Ryan about whether The Game actually works as a pick-up technique and Edmonton’s cowboy bars.

Show notes:

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/20-ryan-and-the-mechanical-bull/feed/ 1 JP and Elah interview Ryan about whether The Game actually works as a pick-up technique and Edmonton’s cowboy bars. Show notes: How do you “neg” someone (i.e. put them down to make them like you)?  Should you? Hear JP fall in love with mechanical bulls before your ears! Check out Ryan’s profile on OkCupid, and let us know how he could make it more super: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/awes-Eclipse Music by Drew Danburry and Gareth Auden-Hole JP and Elah interview Ryan about whether The Game actually works as a pick-up technique and Edmonton’s cowboy bars. Show notes: How do you “neg” someone (i.e. put them down to make them like you)?  Should you? Hear JP fall in love with [...] JP & Elah 23:41 yes #19: Time Capsules http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/19-time-capsules/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/19-time-capsules/#comments Fri, 13 Aug 2010 02:24:30 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=435

Mini-episode! What happens when a relationship ends, but the evidence won’t go away?  Sierra Bellows contemplates the tapes and letters that stuck around long after her intense high school romance was gone.

Image courtesy of J E Smith.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/19-time-capsules/feed/ 1 Mini-episode! What happens when a relationship ends, but the evidence won’t go away?  Sierra Bellows contemplates the tapes and letters that stuck around long after her intense high school romance was gone. Image courtesy of J E Smith. Mini-episode! What happens when a relationship ends, but the evidence won’t go away?  Sierra Bellows contemplates the tapes and letters that stuck around long after her intense high school romance was gone. Image courtesy of J E Smith. JP & Elah 9:33 yes #18: Laura May’s Sexy Diary http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/18-laura-mays-sexy-diary/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/18-laura-mays-sexy-diary/#comments Sun, 08 Aug 2010 16:34:10 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=424 Are you ready to take a super-sexy steamy sensual and slightly sleazy trip with us?  Join us as we talk to erotic podcaster Laura May of Laura May Diaries.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to Laura May for being our awesome guest.
  • Laura says her favourite chapters of her diary are 10,11 and 13.
  • Music by Laura May, Gareth Auden-Hole and Drew Danburry.
  • This week we recommend you sign up for a FREE trial of Audible.com and pick up a FREE copy of Some Girls: My Life in a Harem by Jillian Lauren.  You can also choose any book from their library of over 75,000 by visiting audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/08/18-laura-mays-sexy-diary/feed/ 4 Are you ready to take a super-sexy steamy sensual and slightly sleazy trip with us?  Join us as we talk to erotic podcaster Laura May of Laura May Diaries. Show Notes: Thanks to Laura May for being our awesome guest. Laura says her favourite chapters of her diary are 10,11 and 13. Music by Laura May, Gareth Auden-Hole and Drew Danburry. This week we recommend you sign up for a FREE trial of Audible.com and pick up a FREE copy of Some Girls: My Life in a Harem by Jillian Lauren.  You can also choose any book from their library of over 75,000 by visiting audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou Are you ready to take a super-sexy steamy sensual and slightly sleazy trip with us?  Join us as we talk to erotic podcaster Laura May of Laura May Diaries. Show Notes: Thanks to Laura May for being our awesome guest. Laura says her favourite [...] JP & Elah 37:40 yes #17: Dating Under the Influence http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/17-dating-under-the-influence/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/17-dating-under-the-influence/#comments Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:01:15 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=412 What influences the way you date? This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives.

Show Notes:

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/17-dating-under-the-influence/feed/ 0 What influences the way you date? This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives. Show Notes: There’s plenty of evidence that people emulate what they learn at a young age: studies show children of divorce are 49% more likely to divorce and children who witness abuse are twice as likely to abuse their own partners [PDF]. Dan Savage’s column Savage Love is mentioned as a great source of information for curious young minds. This week’s AudiblePodcast.com/ilikeyou FREE audio book recommendation is Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking No guest this week, just us! Music by Drew Danburry What influences the way you date? This week JP and Elah explore how friends, family pop-culture and porn have influenced their romantic lives. Show Notes: There’s plenty of evidence that people emulate what they learn at a young age: studies show [...] JP & Elah 38:56 yes #16: Open Relationships http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/16-open-relationships/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/16-open-relationships/#comments Sat, 24 Jul 2010 06:41:58 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=401 JP and I sometimes have trouble getting even one person to date us (each), so we were pretty fascinated with the idea of dating multiple people simultaneously. Luckily, we had Kasha to answer our questions about open relationships.

Sample questions:

  • What are the rules?  What are your limits?
  • So your girlfriend got married – how does that affect your relationship?
  • Can someone cheat in an open relationship?
  • What makes some (but not most!) poly people so annoying?
  • Are Elah and JP’s questions annoying? (possibly)

If you want to learn more about open relationships, Kasha strongly recommends Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. And for a cautionary tale, Elah recommends Eclipse: Twilight Saga Book 3, a modern monogamy tragedy, which you can get as an audiobook here.

Finally, since we weren’t able to squeeze in a lot of our Q&A, we may be bringing you a blog post from Kasha in the near future! In the meantime, you can follow her tweetings at twitter.com/pushygalor.

This week’s music was provided by Abigail Clarke (piano pieces) and Drew Danburry.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/16-open-relationships/feed/ 1 JP and I sometimes have trouble getting even one person to date us (each), so we were pretty fascinated with the idea of dating multiple people simultaneously. Luckily, we had Kasha to answer our questions about open relationships. Sample questions: What are the rules?  What are your limits? So your girlfriend got married – how does that affect your relationship? Can someone cheat in an open relationship? What makes some (but not most!) poly people so annoying? Are Elah and JP’s questions annoying? (possibly) If you want to learn more about open relationships, Kasha strongly recommends Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. And for a cautionary tale, Elah recommends Eclipse: Twilight Saga Book 3, a modern monogamy tragedy, which you can get as an audiobook here. Finally, since we weren’t able to squeeze in a lot of our Q&A, we may be bringing you a blog post from Kasha in the near future! In the meantime, you can follow her tweetings at twitter.com/pushygalor. This week’s music was provided by Abigail Clarke (piano pieces) and Drew Danburry. JP and I sometimes have trouble getting even one person to date us (each), so we were pretty fascinated with the idea of dating multiple people simultaneously. Luckily, we had Kasha to answer our questions about open relationships. Sample [...] JP and Elah 31:46 yes #15: Generation Gap http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/15-generation-gap/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/15-generation-gap/#comments Wed, 14 Jul 2010 04:42:14 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=363 This week we interview a 60-year old woman and a 6-year old boy to see what common ground they have when it comes to dating and relationships – if any.

Show Notes:

Action Items:

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/07/15-generation-gap/feed/ 8 This week we interview a 60-year old woman and a 6-year old boy to see what common ground they have when it comes to dating and relationships – if any. Show Notes: Thanks to guests Sebastien and Elah’s mom! Music provided by Drew Danburry and Abigail Clarke. Diehard fans, get the bonus footage. Action Items: Do you or your friends have great dating or relationship stories?  Email us and we’ll put you on the show! If you like what you hear, subscribe, then rate or review us in iTunes. Support us by visiting AudiblePodcast.com/ilikeyou to download David Sedaris’ Me Talk Pretty One Day or your choice of 75,000 audio books absolutely FREE. This week we interview a 60-year old woman and a 6-year old boy to see what common ground they have when it comes to dating and relationships – if any. Show Notes: Thanks to guests Sebastien and Elah’s mom! Music provided by Drew Danburry and [...] JP & Elah 46:41 yes #14: Love Ruins Everything http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/14-love-ruins-everything/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/14-love-ruins-everything/#comments Mon, 28 Jun 2010 21:45:39 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=343 After a number of complaints (one) that being in relationships has ruined our credibility as show hosts, JP and I decided to dedicate a show to the destructive force that is love.  What we found in these stories was not so much love, as love’s evil doppelganger, but sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference.

Show notes:

  • JP’s girlfriend, Sondra, tells us how the l-word ruined an old relationship.
  • Love ruins break-ups too! Sondra explains how lingering feelings made her ex cyber-stalk her.
  • Elah’s step-father proposes an alternative to romantic love. He seems to have given this a disturbing amount of thought.

Thanks to Abigail Clarke for music contributions and Drew Danburry for our theme song (vote to let us know what you think of it).

Finally, Sondra has a podcast too!  It’s called How to Be Awesome. You can find it at awesomepodcast.com. (this episode features JP and Elah!)

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/14-love-ruins-everything/feed/ 3 After a number of complaints (one) that being in relationships has ruined our credibility as show hosts, JP and I decided to dedicate a show to the destructive force that is love.  What we found in these stories was not so much love, as love’s evil doppelganger, but sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference. Show notes: JP’s girlfriend, Sondra, tells us how the l-word ruined an old relationship. Love ruins break-ups too! Sondra explains how lingering feelings made her ex cyber-stalk her. Elah’s step-father proposes an alternative to romantic love. He seems to have given this a disturbing amount of thought. Thanks to Abigail Clarke for music contributions and Drew Danburry for our theme song (vote to let us know what you think of it). Finally, Sondra has a podcast too!  It’s called How to Be Awesome. You can find it at awesomepodcast.com. (this episode features JP and Elah!) After a number of complaints (one) that being in relationships has ruined our credibility as show hosts, JP and I decided to dedicate a show to the destructive force that is love.  What we found in these stories was not so much love, as love’s [...] JP and Elah 30:53 yes #13: Shameless http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/13-shameless/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/13-shameless/#comments Tue, 22 Jun 2010 05:22:28 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=338 On this week’s show we discuss the shame of admitting to having met your long-term partner online, as well as the trials and tribulations faced by any long-term relationship.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to our awesome (and awesomely honest) guest Jared!
  • Music provided by Drew Danburry
  • For our foreign listeners: The “ROM” mentioned in the episode is the Royal Ontario Museum.

Action Items:

  • Want to be on a future show about speed-dating with the oportunity to participate in a FREE I Like You speed dating event?  Email us!
  • Check out audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou for a free audio book download of your choice.  JP and Elah Approved!
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/13-shameless/feed/ 1 On this week’s show we discuss the shame of admitting to having met your long-term partner online, as well as the trials and tribulations faced by any long-term relationship. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome (and awesomely honest) guest Jared! Music provided by Drew Danburry For our foreign listeners: The “ROM” mentioned in the episode is the Royal Ontario Museum. Action Items: Want to be on a future show about speed-dating with the oportunity to participate in a FREE I Like You speed dating event?  Email us! Check out audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou for a free audio book download of your choice.  JP and Elah Approved! On this week’s show we discuss the shame of admitting to having met your long-term partner online, as well as the trials and tribulations faced by any long-term relationship. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome (and awesomely honest) guest Jared! [...] JP & Elah 35:35 yes #12: Committed http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/12-committed/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/12-committed/#comments Mon, 14 Jun 2010 14:35:01 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=330 This week, we bring you confessions of a serial monogamist.  Liz explains how – despite her best intentions – she wound up in 10 years of non-stop long term relationships with four very different women.  At 29, she’s finally on her own, and she tells us whether single life is working out as planned. Warning to our more sensitive listeners: this episode is slightly more explicit than usual.

Thank you to Drew Danburry and Sandra Taylor for musical contributions.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/12-committed/feed/ 2 This week, we bring you confessions of a serial monogamist.  Liz explains how – despite her best intentions – she wound up in 10 years of non-stop long term relationships with four very different women.  At 29, she’s finally on her own, and she tells us whether single life is working out as planned. Warning to our more sensitive listeners: this episode is slightly more explicit than usual. Thank you to Drew Danburry and Sandra Taylor for musical contributions. This week, we bring you confessions of a serial monogamist.  Liz explains how – despite her best intentions – she wound up in 10 years of non-stop long term relationships with four very different women.  At 29, she’s finally on her own, and [...] JP and Elah 26:45 yes #11: Love and Marriage… and Racism http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/11-love-and-marriage-and-racism/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/11-love-and-marriage-and-racism/#comments Thu, 03 Jun 2010 17:22:06 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=317 This week we talk about dealing with a racist date, being in love (or not) and how not seeking marriage and kids may be the path to love, marriage and kids.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to our awesome guest Monica!
  • Music generously provided by Drew Danburry

Action Items:

  • Would you like to talk to us about your dating experience on the show?  Email us!
  • Support the show and help yourself to a FREE audio book download at audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou.  Cancel your subscription within 14 days, pay nothing, keep your free book.  Audible is an Amazon.com company, so you know they’re legit.
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/06/11-love-and-marriage-and-racism/feed/ 0 This week we talk about dealing with a racist date, being in love (or not) and how not seeking marriage and kids may be the path to love, marriage and kids. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome guest Monica! Music generously provided by Drew Danburry Action Items: Would you like to talk to us about your dating experience on the show?  Email us! Support the show and help yourself to a FREE audio book download at audiblepodcast.com/ilikeyou.  Cancel your subscription within 14 days, pay nothing, keep your free book.  Audible is an Amazon.com company, so you know they’re legit. This week we talk about dealing with a racist date, being in love (or not) and how not seeking marriage and kids may be the path to love, marriage and kids. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome guest Monica! Music generously provided by Drew Danburry [...] JP & Elah 34:52 yes #10: Studies Show… http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/10-studies-show/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/10-studies-show/#comments Sat, 29 May 2010 02:04:41 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=310 It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong.  This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating:

What should your profile look like?  What kind of jokes do people find attractive?  Is it really so bad to post a web cam shot?  Are men really looking for hot bods and women looking for deep pockets? How does the pill affect your choice of lover? Luckily, researchers have studied these questions and we bring you their findings!

Show note of shame: Most of these studies looked exclusively at straight people, but we do include non-hetero facts wherever we could find them.

We finally dug up our references.  Here they are (you’ll need academic journal access to open some of these):

  • OkCupid Trends Blog (always a treasure trove of entertaining data and commentary) busts profile picture myths, including our assumption that taking a picture of yourself looks pathetic.
  • Online dating makes people picky. Speed dating makes us less picky. Read about it in the New York Times.
  • Study of people’s preferences on Hot or Not discussed in the Globe and Mail. Oddly, it says that lesbians were the least superficial, which is a weird finding for a study of people’s photos preferences. One day we’ll look at the actual study and find out what that’s all about.
  • Study of who people contact online.  They look at physical attractiveness, height, income, race, and more. (Hitsch, Hortacsu, and Ariely, 2006).  Check out the income-height and income-race trade-offs in the appendices.
  • Study alleging that self-deprecating humour is super sexy if you’re a high status college kid (Greengross and Miller, 2008, in Evolutionary Psychology) .  But check out this graph.  Non-humour story wins, right?  Are we reading this wrong?

  • The classic study of MHC genes and attraction by Wedekind et al, 1995, Proceedings of the Royal Society B.  Women smelled shirts worn by men for two days in a row, and seemed to prefer the smells of genetically dissimilar men.  Being on the pill changed who they preferred.  Note that since this study, there have been pretty mixed results on this subject (Havlicek and Roberts, 2009).  Also, we can’t seem to find that study of MHC preferences in non-straight people…  Only sketchy blogs mention it. Sorry about that.
  • In speed dating, women normally stay put, and men rotate from one date to another. This study played around with the rotator/sitter roles, and found that sitting makes you pickier.  Neat!
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/10-studies-show/feed/ 1 It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong.  This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating: What should your profile look like?  What kind of jokes do people find attractive?  Is it really so bad to post a web cam shot?  Are men really looking for hot bods and women looking for deep pockets? How does the pill affect your choice of lover? Luckily, researchers have studied these questions and we bring you their findings! Show note of shame: Most of these studies looked exclusively at straight people, but we do include non-hetero facts wherever we could find them. We finally dug up our references.  Here they are (you’ll need academic journal access to open some of these): OkCupid Trends Blog (always a treasure trove of entertaining data and commentary) busts profile picture myths, including our assumption that taking a picture of yourself looks pathetic. Online dating makes people picky. Speed dating makes us less picky. Read about it in the New York Times. Study of people’s preferences on Hot or Not discussed in the Globe and Mail. Oddly, it says that lesbians were the least superficial, which is a weird finding for a study of people’s photos preferences. One day we’ll look at the actual study and find out what that’s all about. Study of who people contact online.  They look at physical attractiveness, height, income, race, and more. (Hitsch, Hortacsu, and Ariely, 2006).  Check out the income-height and income-race trade-offs in the appendices. Study alleging that self-deprecating humour is super sexy if you’re a high status college kid (Greengross and Miller, 2008, in Evolutionary Psychology) .  But check out this graph.  Non-humour story wins, right?  Are we reading this wrong? The classic study of MHC genes and attraction by Wedekind et al, 1995, Proceedings of the Royal Society B.  Women smelled shirts worn by men for two days in a row, and seemed to prefer the smells of genetically dissimilar men.  Being on the pill changed who they preferred.  Note that since this study, there have been pretty mixed results on this subject (Havlicek and Roberts, 2009).  Also, we can’t seem to find that study of MHC preferences in non-straight people…  Only sketchy blogs mention it. Sorry about that. In speed dating, women normally stay put, and men rotate from one date to another. This study played around with the rotator/sitter roles, and found that sitting makes you pickier.  Neat! It turns out the one piece of advice we ever gave about online dating was dead wrong.  This episode, we decided to let science do the advising and tell us everything we wanted to know about dating: What should your profile look like?  What kind [...] JP and Elah 25:52 yes #9: Guy Talk http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/9-guy-talk/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/9-guy-talk/#comments Wed, 19 May 2010 13:59:32 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=296 This week is all about guys who like girls – Elah was permitted to stick around though since technically it’s her show too.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to guests Mike and Josh!
  • Music by Drew Danburry (he’s got a new album!), Sandra Taylor and Gareth Auden-Hole.
  • How to be Awesome is a great new podcast by our friends Sondra and Kim.
  • Apologies for the lateness of this episode!  We’ll likely switch to releasing them later in the week from now on since the Monday release is always a bit of a scramble.

Action Items:

  • Ladies: tell us about your experience asking out a fella – if you’ve never done that, do it today! [as Elah quite rightly points out in the comments, this action should have been directed toward "straight ladies".  Gay ladies: don't ask a fella out - nobody likes a tease.]
  • Support the podcast and enjoy a free audio book by signing up for a free trial at AudiblePodcast.com/ilikeyou
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/9-guy-talk/feed/ 1 This week is all about guys who like girls – Elah was permitted to stick around though since technically it’s her show too. Show Notes: Thanks to guests Mike and Josh! Music by Drew Danburry (he’s got a new album!), Sandra Taylor and Gareth Auden-Hole. How to be Awesome is a great new podcast by our friends Sondra and Kim. Apologies for the lateness of this episode!  We’ll likely switch to releasing them later in the week from now on since the Monday release is always a bit of a scramble. Action Items: Ladies: tell us about your experience asking out a fella – if you’ve never done that, do it today! [as Elah quite rightly points out in the comments, this action should have been directed toward "straight ladies".  Gay ladies: don't ask a fella out - nobody likes a tease.] Support the podcast and enjoy a free audio book by signing up for a free trial at AudiblePodcast.com/ilikeyou This week is all about guys who like girls – Elah was permitted to stick around though since technically it’s her show too. Show Notes: Thanks to guests Mike and Josh! Music by Drew Danburry (he’s got a new album!), Sandra Taylor and Gareth [...] JP & Elah 37:03 yes #8: Captain a Ship http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/8-captain-a-ship/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/8-captain-a-ship/#comments Sun, 02 May 2010 22:32:16 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=287 JP is away for a it, so we present you with a micro-episode featuring another JP & Elah original tune!  We’ll be back with a real show before you know it.

Update: If you tried to download this between 6 and 7:30 on Sunday, you would have found the wrong episode posted.  It’s right now!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/05/8-captain-a-ship/feed/ 2 JP is away for a it, so we present you with a micro-episode featuring another JP & Elah original tune!  We’ll be back with a real show before you know it. Update: If you tried to download this between 6 and 7:30 on Sunday, you would have found the wrong episode posted.  It’s right now! JP is away for a it, so we present you with a micro-episode featuring another JP & Elah original tune!  We’ll be back with a real show before you know it. Update: If you tried to download this between 6 and 7:30 on Sunday, you would have [...] JP & Elah 3:58 yes #7: Dangerous Liaisons http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/7-dangerous-liaisons/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/7-dangerous-liaisons/#comments Mon, 26 Apr 2010 14:26:48 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=282 This week we explore whether dating (especially online) is as dangerous as moms think it is.

Show notes:

- Tips for safe dating from http://www.saferonlinedating.org/tips

- Scariest ever profile review. We’d give you the link, but Elah fears retribution.  All details provided in the show.

- Our friend fondly remembers the charms of Serial Killer Trevor

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/7-dangerous-liaisons/feed/ 3 This week we explore whether dating (especially online) is as dangerous as moms think it is. Show notes: - Tips for safe dating from http://www.saferonlinedating.org/tips - Scariest ever profile review. We’d give you the link, but Elah fears retribution.  All details provided in the show. - Our friend fondly remembers the charms of Serial Killer Trevor This week we explore whether dating (especially online) is as dangerous as moms think it is. Show notes: - Tips for safe dating from http://www.saferonlinedating.org/tips - Scariest ever profile review. We’d give you the link, but Elah fears [...] JP and Elah 23:12 yes #6: Trust, But Verify http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/6-trust-but-verify/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/6-trust-but-verify/#comments Mon, 19 Apr 2010 03:01:00 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=268 How honest are you in your online dating profile? Are you really that young? Is it even you in those pictures?  In this episode, we take an innocent peek at the misrepresentations, fibs and outright lies we all perpetrate when we’re looking for like.

Show Notes:

  • Two guests back by popular demand: Elah’s mom and slave-master David.
  • Thanks again to Gareth Auden-Hole and Drew Danburry for providing the excellent music heard throughout the show.

Action Items:

Thanks for listening!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/6-trust-but-verify/feed/ 11 How honest are you in your online dating profile? Are you really that young? Is it even you in those pictures?  In this episode, we take an innocent peek at the misrepresentations, fibs and outright lies we all perpetrate when we’re looking for like. Show Notes: Two guests back by popular demand: Elah’s mom and slave-master David. Thanks again to Gareth Auden-Hole and Drew Danburry for providing the excellent music heard throughout the show. Action Items: Enter our pick-up line contest for a chance at some great prizes! Review us in iTunes: If you like what you heard, jot down a quick sentence or two – your encouragement is like sweet kisses to us. Email us your profile for review. Thanks for listening! How honest are you in your online dating profile? Are you really that young? Is it even you in those pictures? In this episode, we take an innocent peek at the misrepresentations, fibs and outright lies we all perpetrate when we're looking for like. JP & Elah 20:40 yes #5: You Don’t Like Me. HOT. http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/5-you-dont-like-me-hot/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/5-you-dont-like-me-hot/#comments Mon, 12 Apr 2010 14:25:42 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=251 Ever like someone because they were indifferent or even disliked you?  This episode is about that.

Show notes:

  • Elah’s friend tells us about the strange allure of a man with – as far as Elah can tell – no redeeming qualities, but many hilarious/tragic flaws.
  • Recent lawsuits compelled eHarmony to open its doors to queer people, kind of.  What kind of self-hating person would sign up?  Elah, apparently.  Local lawyer, Sabrina, helps us understand how these lawsuits worked.
  • Finally, Sierra reads her story about a hot summer affair gone cold.
  • Music by Drew Danburry and Gareth Auden-Hole.
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/5-you-dont-like-me-hot/feed/ 0 Ever like someone because they were indifferent or even disliked you?  This episode is about that. Show notes: Elah’s friend tells us about the strange allure of a man with – as far as Elah can tell – no redeeming qualities, but many hilarious/tragic flaws. Recent lawsuits compelled eHarmony to open its doors to queer people, kind of.  What kind of self-hating person would sign up?  Elah, apparently.  Local lawyer, Sabrina, helps us understand how these lawsuits worked. Finally, Sierra reads her story about a hot summer affair gone cold. Music by Drew Danburry and Gareth Auden-Hole. Ever like someone because they were indifferent or even disliked you?  This episode is about that. Show notes: Elah’s friend tells us about the strange allure of a man with – as far as Elah can tell – no redeeming qualities, but many [...] JP & Elah 29:00 yes #4: Taking the Plunge http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/4-taking-the-plunge/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/4-taking-the-plunge/#comments Mon, 05 Apr 2010 05:34:07 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=221 This week we “investigate” the decisions, risks and conundrums everyone faces as they step once more into the breach that is dating and relationships.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to our awesome guests Steph, Alison and Sondra!
  • Great music by Drew Danburry: visit DrewDanburry.com or search for him on iTunes to buy his album

Action Items:

  • Call with your tales of taking the plunge, or better yet, take the plunge today by confessing your secret crush on the Like Line!
  • Subscribe to get next week’s episode on the undeniable draw of sweet sweet rejection - promises to be a great one!
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/04/4-taking-the-plunge/feed/ 0 This week we “investigate” the decisions, risks and conundrums everyone faces as they step once more into the breach that is dating and relationships. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome guests Steph, Alison and Sondra! Great music by Drew Danburry: visit DrewDanburry.com or search for him on iTunes to buy his album Action Items: Call with your tales of taking the plunge, or better yet, take the plunge today by confessing your secret crush on the Like Line! Subscribe to get next week’s episode on the undeniable draw of sweet sweet rejection - promises to be a great one! This week we “investigate” the decisions, risks and conundrums everyone faces as they step once more into the breach that is dating and relationships. Show Notes: Thanks to our awesome guests Steph, Alison and Sondra! Great music by Drew [...] JP & Elah 40:08 yes #3: Dear John http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/3-dear-john/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/3-dear-john/#comments Mon, 29 Mar 2010 14:05:31 +0000 Elah http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=201 This week, JP and Elah learn how to catch a man.

Show notes:

  • David gives us a peek into the world of men dating men, with some unexpected results.
  • Cait offers us dating insights from insects, and explains why J-Date is the place to meet a husband – even if you’re not Jewish.
  • JP and Elah find their dream man, without even looking for him, but soon discover his fatal flaw…

Links:

Dream man John can be found at http://www.okcupid.com/profile/nlmln (login required)

The New York Times props Cait up in this article about J-Date for gentiles.

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/3-dear-john/feed/ 2 This week, JP and Elah learn how to catch a man. Show notes: David gives us a peek into the world of men dating men, with some unexpected results. Cait offers us dating insights from insects, and explains why J-Date is the place to meet a husband – even if you’re not Jewish. JP and Elah find their dream man, without even looking for him, but soon discover his fatal flaw… Links: Dream man John can be found at http://www.okcupid.com/profile/nlmln (login required) The New York Times props Cait up in this article about J-Date for gentiles. This week, JP and Elah learn how to catch a man. Show notes: David gives us a peek into the world of men dating men, with some unexpected results. Cait offers us dating insights from insects, and explains why J-Date is the place to meet a husband [...] JP & Elah 23:38 yes #2: Our Profiles – The Naked Truth http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/2-our-profiles-the-naked-truth/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/2-our-profiles-the-naked-truth/#comments Mon, 22 Mar 2010 04:24:24 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=171

In this week’s episode we bring you the straight dope on our online dating profiles.

Show Notes:

  • Sierra of Charlotte, North Carolina asked for more music on the show – and we’ve delivered
  • Elah’s Plenty of Fish and Ok Cupid (login req.) profiles
  • JP’s Ok Cupid (login req.) profile
  • JP & Elah’s Rules of Sexy #1: No Webcam Photos (listen for details)
  • We start a feud with the Big Gay Sex Show (NSFW) for domination of the ‘Personal Journals’ subcategory chart on iTunes

Action Items:

  • Leave us a voicemail about our profiles – do you agree with our assessments? (be gentle!)
  • Email us your profile and we’ll let you know what we think next episode!
]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/2-our-profiles-the-naked-truth/feed/ 1 In this week’s episode we bring you the straight dope on our online dating profiles. Show Notes: Sierra of Charlotte, North Carolina asked for more music on the show – and we’ve delivered Elah’s Plenty of Fish and Ok Cupid (login req.) profiles JP’s Ok Cupid (login req.) profile JP & Elah’s Rules of Sexy #1: No Webcam Photos (listen for details) We start a feud with the Big Gay Sex Show (NSFW) for domination of the ‘Personal Journals’ subcategory chart on iTunes Action Items: Leave us a voicemail about our profiles – do you agree with our assessments? (be gentle!) Email us your profile and we’ll let you know what we think next episode! In this week’s episode we bring you the straight dope on our online dating profiles. Show Notes: Sierra of Charlotte, North Carolina asked for more music on the show – and we’ve delivered Elah’s Plenty of Fish and Ok Cupid (login req.) [...] JP & Elah 35:36 yes Episode One: A Postcard to Ourselves http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/episode-one/ http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/episode-one/#comments Sun, 14 Mar 2010 06:05:12 +0000 JP http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/?p=147 We did it! Episode one is online! It’s a super self-indulgent behind the scenes peak at our podcasting hopes and fears; the people who inspire us; and our detractors, who will stop at nothing to keep us from your ears.

Show Notes:

  • Thanks to our wonderful guests Michelle, Luke, Jessica, Anna, Steph and a special thanks to Leo, who didn’t make it into the episode due to technical difficulties (sorry!).
  • Steph’s dating blog is Steph vs. Dating – visit it and be horrified! (and amused). We’d love to have her back on the show as soon as she stops crying.
  • We learned a lot making this episode, but mistakes were made. Expect significantly better recording quality for future shows.

Action Items:

Thanks for listening!

]]> http://ilikeyoupodcast.com/2010/03/episode-one/feed/ 0 We did it! Episode one is online! It’s a super self-indulgent behind the scenes peak at our podcasting hopes and fears; the people who inspire us; and our detractors, who will stop at nothing to keep us from your ears. Show Notes: Thanks to our wonderful guests Michelle, Luke, Jessica, Anna, Steph and a special thanks to Leo, who didn’t make it into the episode due to technical difficulties (sorry!). Steph’s dating blog is Steph vs. Dating – visit it and be horrified! (and amused). We’d love to have her back on the show as soon as she stops crying. We learned a lot making this episode, but mistakes were made. Expect significantly better recording quality for future shows. Action Items: Leave us a voicemail: We’ll be reviewing each others’ profiles next week, so tell us – what is your biggest dealbreaker when you’re browsing dating sites? Comment on this episode below Subscribe, then rate us in iTunes Send us your podsafe music suggestions for future episodes Thanks for listening! We did it! Episode one is online! It’s a super self-indulgent behind the scenes peak at our podcasting hopes and fears; the people who inspire us; and our detractors, who will stop at nothing to keep us from your ears. Show Notes: Thanks to our [...] 28:30 yes